Hey, you.
Yeah, you. The one with the glittering eyes and the beating heart.
I know. I know exactly what it feels like.
So, just listen to me for a second...
Self-sabotage isn't fun, but it happens. It happens to all of us at some point in time. It comes in all different forms, but it all starts with the mind. It's just a little game that your mind likes to play with you, but you don't have to put your pawn on the game board.
Stop thinking that you're not good enough. In fact, take that phrase, "good enough," roll it up into a ball and just throw it away because it has no purpose or place here. But you do. Being "good enough" is not a realistic goal, because we get in our own way all the time and always keep ourselves from attaining it. It could be the smallest thing that could push us back. What we're really afraid of is the change that could occur when we do accomplish something. We have become so used to this idea of not being "good enough" that when we do feel like we are, we're going to do all we can do get us away from that feeling. It's just our crazy subconscious. Place your hand over your heart. Do you feel that? You're here for a reason. You're here and you have a purpose, whether you see it or not right now.
Stop comparing yourself. "You are who you are and that's all you can be. You can't be something that you're not or something someone thinks you should be. The you that you are is a good person. It's when you try to be somebody else that you get into trouble." One of my high school teachers told me that and I will always remember it. Believe it or not, the people that you're comparing yourself to are comparing themselves to the person that you are, too.
Start believing that you deserve all the good things in your life. Start becoming savagely thankful and be ferocious in showing it. I know that you probably push people away or downplay the good things in your life because you think you don't deserve them, but YOU DO. You deserve it. All of it. Remember that everything in this life is happening FOR you and not TO you. Do what you want and make sure that whatever you do that it makes you overwhelmingly happy. It's not always going to match up with others' ideas every time because they're not you and I hope that one of these days you find the strength that lies in that sentiment. Life is too short to just follow along. People are always saying be a leader and not a follower. If the only leadership role you hold in life is being the leader of your own life, that's all that is necessary.
Now, take a breath, believe in yourself, and take back what is rightfully yours: your happiness.
