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Yes, I'm In A Long Term Relationship. No, I'm Not Missing Out

Growing together, rather than apart.

Emily Chancellor
Aug 21, 2017
Friends University
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Yes, I'm In A Long Term Relationship. No, I'm Not Missing Out
Emily Chancellor

"We don't just get to grow old together, we get to grow up together. And that's the real adventure."

You hear a lot about people not wanting to be shamed for being single, or for dating around. However, I've experienced the opposite of that. I have been shamed for having a long term relationship during my college and high school years.

I started "talking" to my current boyfriend when I was 14. I'm now 22 and that 15 year old boy I had a crush on since middle school is now my best friend and the absolute love of my life. I'm not saying our relationship is perfect, but I am saying that every moment spent with him helped me to grow and experience life in ways that I never would have without him.

As I entered college, many of my friends were dating around and were finding out who they were as people. I have been criticized multiple times about continuing my 7 year relationship. I've been told that I'm missing out, or that I will never be able to find out who I truly am.

What many of my classmates don't realize is that I have grown so much as a person and so has my wonderful boyfriend. I understand that people grow apart as they get older, but I was so blessed to grow with my boyfriend. Neither of us are the same people we were when we were freshmen in high school, but we have grown together to compliment the people we are now.

As for missing out on "experiences," I haven't missed out on anything. I still have made new friends, I've traveled, I went to my dream school, I moved out of my small town, and I am chasing my dreams. There are incredible experiences that I've had because of my boyfriend. Without him, I never would have gone to a Kansas State bowl game in Arizona. Without him, I would have never been pushed to follow my dreams.

I guess the moral of this article is that it's okay that I've only had one boyfriend my entire life because I'm happy. I know this is where I want to be in life and I know he is who I want to be with in this crazy life. I have still grown as a person, I know who I am independent from him, and I know that I love him with all of my heart.

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