Dear Straight and Gay Communities,
I am bisexual, and I am enough.
No, I do not directly fit with either one of you, but that's okay. Though, just because I don't fit in does not mean you should turn me away.
I did not choose my sexuality, just as you did not choose yours, which means that I'm not doing this for attention. I didn't choose this as something to tell my male partners to turn them on.
No, I am not a sex addict. I'm not attracted to every single person I meet. I don't walk around having relations with as many people as possible and I don't cheat on my partners with the opposite sex out of boredom or just because I can. The world may be my oyster, but that doesn't mean that I'm greedy. I have healthy, steady relationships— and flings too, I am only human, but if I'm in a relationship I am 100% committed to my significant other. And for the last time, no, I don't want to have a threesome with you and your boyfriend/girlfriend.
I'm not confused, I'm attracted to both males and females. I promise you, that if I am with a man, I'm not "straight", and if I'm with a woman, I'm not "gay". My relationships will never define me. My bisexuality allows me have the pleasure of dating both men and women alike. I cannot give you "percentages" for how much I'm attracted to men versus women. I can marry a man or a woman— and if I do get married, I could just as well get divorced and marry the opposite sex. I will not answer you if you ask me who's better in bed.
I'm sorry, but this isn't a phase and I will never "pick a side". I will never fully identify with the two of you, but I can try to find my place within you both. In my eyes, you have it easy, you have your groups that are easily definable. I constantly feel out of place because I can't completely fit in. It's not the ideal situation, but I have no choice, this is who I am.
I have only one thing to ask of the both of you, be as accepting of me and my sexuality as I am with yours. I already feel extremely out of place as it is, and all I wish is for you to welcome me with open arms.
Sincerely,
A Proud Bisexual Woman
P.S. I do realize that not everyone thinks that all of these ideas are true, but I personally have heard many of these come from both gay and straight people. I am not attacking you, all I'm asking is for you to have open minds when it comes to people like me.
