Yes, I Am A Bitch, And I'm OK With That

Yes, I Am A Bitch, And I'm OK With That

You can call me whatever you want, just know that this bitch is going places.

I don’t know if it’s because I recently moved below the Mason-Dixon Line and my New England sarcasm doesn’t translate well, the current change in political climate or what, but I have been called a bitch more than anything else in 2017.

As with most things, I try to find the positive side, so I’ve decided that the haters are right.

I am a bitch.

But you know what? I’m okay with that, and you should be too. So, here is how I am deciding to change the meaning of being a bitch.


Being a boss bitch is about self-confidence, which means loving oneself inside and out. No one loves how they look all the time, but bitches have the confidence to rock what they’ve got, even after feasting shamelessly on a 20-piece chicken nugget meal and a self-tanning disaster. If you want to slay like Beyoncé, you have to own it because when you know you’re a goddess other people see it too.


Perhaps Lisa Kleypas said it best: “A well-read woman is a dangerous creature.” Dangerous because women have been limited culturally for thousands of years and now they are finally being acknowledged as inventors and scientists, as athletes, journalists, heads of state, supreme court justices and activists. Dangerous because we serve the greatest threat to patriarchal traditions. As a boss bitch your only limit is you, glass ceiling or no glass ceiling, and it always benefits you to be smarter than the next guy.


Albert Einstein, the Nobel Prize winning physicist and one of the most brilliant minds of the 20th century, was unable to speak fluently until he was nine-years-old. Michael Jordan, the man who could never seem to retire and was responsible for 6,672 rebounds, 5,633 assists and 32,292 total points, was once quoted, “I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed."

Being a bitch is about never giving up. It’s about acknowledging shortcomings, learning from mistakes and relentlessly working towards success.


Take it from George Addair who was quoted as saying, “Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear”. Being a boss bitch means taking chances and not letting fear influence decisions.


Knowing your worth is different than elevating yourself above others. Being beautiful, intelligent, tenacious and courageous has no meaning unless it is balanced by humility. Bitches have to be self-deprecating because there is always room for personal growth and there is no greater hindrance to success than hubris, just ask any protagonist in a Greek parable.

We have to stop attacking the Hillary Clintons of the world based on their demeanor when in the race of grumpiest politician I think we can all agree that she has some pretty impressive male competitors.

You can call me whatever you want, just know that this bitch is going places.

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Stop Being Lazy: Why You Should Always Look Cute For Class

Because your leggings and XL sweatshirts aren't doing you any favors.

We're all guilty of pulling on leggings and letters and running out the door to class. Bumming it isn't exactly a crime but nonetheless, it should probably stop. Class isn't a fashion show but anytime you walk out the door, you represent yourself. Putting in the extra effort to put on jeans instead of yoga pants will pay off in more ways than one.

1. You'll feel better.

Look good, feel good... am I right? When you put your best foot forward you'll have more spring in your step and feel more motivated to have a great day. When's the last time you had a bad day in a fleek outfit? Um, never.

2. And have more confidence.

Have you ever really felt comfortable speaking up in class when your hair's in a messy bun and you have no make up on? No, you don't. Sure, I'm all for being confident without make up and being comfortable in your own skin, but you're not doing yourself any favors when you skip out on a little mascara.

3. Class is actually important.

By the time you're a sophomore, chances are most of your classes are going to be related to your major and all of your professors can and will probably be able to help you get to grad school, an internship, or a job. Think of class as practice as for the "real world." You wouldn't go to work or a job interview looking like a bum, would you? And your professors are much more likely to help a student who puts just a little effort into their appearance, rather than roll into lecture in sweats.

4. Unfortunately, people do judge a book by its cover.

I'm not saying that it's right, but you know people are judging you as you walk down Shortlidge. Put the effort into looking polished, instead of looking like the girl who took a pitcher of tequila to the face last night... because ~tbh~ no one really likes that girl anyway.

5. You'll always feel "on."

If you're wearing something cute, who cares if you bump into your ex, an old friend, or a super intimidating professor? You're far more likely to strike up a conversation in booties and jeans than if you're slumming it in your gym clothes.

6. You can use it as an outlet to express yourself.

Clothes are a really easy way to express yourself and get creative. If you want everyone to eff off, wear all black. You're super girly? Wear all pink. The choice is yours. On the other hand, when you wear some oversized sweatshirt with a coffee stain, what do you think that says about you?

7. You'll look less lazy.

While yeah, lying in bed all day in sweats watching Netflix is completely normal and totally okay, don't let it affect your style. Wearing the same thing to class that you wear to bed isn't cute, like at all. A good rule of thumb is if you would wear it to sleep, you probably shouldn't wear it in public.

8. Gym clothes were meant for the gym.

For one, super tight, compression-y fabrics just aren't meant to be on your body all day. Secondly, just because you pull on gym clothes to make it seem like you might just be heading to the gym after class, doesn't make it any better. If your style is sporty, cool. But don't cross the line into sloppy.

9. It's just as easy to put on jeans as it is sweats.

I was really anti-pants for a long time. I'll admit it... but then I got over it. Shockingly, putting on jeans or pants with a actual waist requires no more effort than pulling on your favorite pair of spandex. And when you find the right pair, they're just as comfortable as your Lululemons.

So do yourself a favor, do a little shopping, and go forth each day with your best bootie forward.

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The City Life Isn't For Everyone, But It's Just Right For Me

I really couldn't picture myself living anywhere else but a city.


All my life, I have lived in the city. My norm wasn't driving to and from all destinations, or miles of nothingness and endless chains of restaurants and stores down long stretches of highways and malls.

My norm was taking four flights of steps to get to my apartment with ten bags of groceries in hand, it was walking everywhere, it was city schools that barely take up a compact city block. Though many would find this stressful or not picture perfect, I found it a comfort zone where I can never find myself not living.

Growing up in the city, I have seen and mostly, heard it all. A majority of America would turn their heads at the thought of what I consider, comfortable.

My comfort sounds aren't the crickets and the looming silence of the swishing trees. My comfort is the beeping horns, the chatter of people off the street, and the roaring sirens of the fire engines and cop cars. It's what makes me feel at home.

Growing up in the city, I am accustomed to other cultures and religions. From preschool, it was never just one race, religion or background. My mother taught me the struggles of what others go through on a daily basis.

I was never hidden from the truth or shed away from a realistic image of America. I saw the heavy endeavor's people can take on and at a young age, I may not have understood then. But now, I feel it gives me an advantage to not be fearful of any circumstance life may throw at me.

As I take on the new chapter in my life in the fall, I feel encouraged, not afraid to explore my city campus in D.C. For many, it will be a challenge, getting used to the life of living in the city but for me, it's just another day of my life in the city.

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