Lately, I have encountered a lot of negativity towards girls that have more guy friends than girl friends. Girls that can cut up with the boys get all kinds of grief for simply making friends with the opposite sex... like it is a crime.
It's really unfair how girls are being judged for making friends and doing what friends do: hanging out, talking and becoming close.
As a girl that grew up with many more guys in my environment to make friends with than girls, ideas that are similar to this offend me. Although my two very best friends I have ever had are females I can say that a lot of my more reliable and long lasting friendships are with males. Friendships that I was almost born into that I would never give up for the entire world or ones that I couldn't help but click with when I met them for the first time... are male.
I'm used to being the only girl in a slew of boys. It was mainly because our dads hung out together, and I was a daddy's girl, so it made sense that I would be there too. Being judged for that was harsh. But at the same time, it was never hard at all. I had to fight for my way all the time. I have scars on my knees and elbows that I can't even keep track of. It would be a lie if they ever told you I wasn't the reason behind any of their scars either. I was pushed around just like the rest of the boys.
They still knew that I was a girl and when enough was enough, but they accepted me. That's all that mattered.
As we got older, a few of them became my "boyfriend" as vague as the term is when you're little. If one was mean to me, the others would beat him up. If I cried, they would make me laugh. That is what friends do for each other. And through my elementary years of being a tomboy, I made some guy friends that will be there for me my entire life.
Now that I am older, my boyfriends don't only get a looking over from my dad and my biological brother, they are also quickly introduced and interrogated by what they FREQUENTLY refer to themselves as: "My other brothers." And whether anyone likes it or not, it is something everyone will have to get used to.
Due to me growing up in this way it has been evident that I also continue to migrate towards having more male friends as I go through life as an adult as well.
It is probably a combination of me being sick of how mean girls are to each other (also guilty) and the chill way that most guys go about life.
Even though you can't talk to men about some things (usually other men for example), sometimes it is easier for me to talk to them when I need an outside opinion or I need a REAL, raw answer. Most males will always be blunt and truthful about stuff, whether you want them to be or not. And that is my biggest reason for valuing my friendships with them so much.
Don't get me wrong, I still sometimes need a break from all the testosterone they put off. I can't spit farther than them. I can't play FMK with them without being biased and offended.
At the same time, I can't thank all of them enough for how much they mean to me. I love each of them just like I love all of my girlfriends. And I will tell them that with a hug and along with all of their good-byes.
