Over a year ago my ex boyfriend and I broke up. It came out of no where and I was not prepared for it. We had been dating for a little over a year but prior to that we had been talking for pretty much the better part of two years and actual dated once before. He was my other half and best friend. A week after our breakup we completely stopped talking and I was forced to learn how to live my life without him. This is what I learned while doing that.
Cry. A lot. Let those tears flow until you feel as if you'll never be able to cry again.
I spent almost a full week in tears before, during, and after our break up. And over the past years have spent many nights in bed crying. But that's okay because it was a way for me to get my feelings out and I always felt a little bit better after.
It is okay to be sad.
Losing someone important to you hurts. No one expects you to be happy after a breakup. You are allowed to be sad for as long as you need. But you cannot let that sadness control your life. Even if you have to fake it, smile, it will help you feel better.
Keep your head held high.
Don't let the little things make you upset. Your gonna think of them. Your gonna see random things that remind you of them. But you have to keep your head held high and fake a smile.
Learn to ignore them.
My ex and I still went to the same school. We broke up a couple weeks before school started. So I was forced to see him in the halls everyday with another girl. But eventually I learned not to look at him. Instead I walked the halls with friends forcing him to see me being happy without him.
Find out who your true friends are.
Trust me your friends will probably be the reason you get through this. My best friend and I had the best adventures that fall. She helped me forget about him, but she was also there when I wanted to cry or scream.
Talk to other people. Don't let your breakup keep you from finding out who else is out there. I promise you there are more people out there for you.
Your single now! You can hangout with that cute guy you sit in front of in your English class. Put yourself out there and talk to other people. It will shock you how many people have the same interest as you do.
You will be okay.
It might not seem like it right now. But you will be okay. You will move on. Soon you'll realize that you can go an entire day without thinking about your ex, and then those days with turn into weeks.
It is okay to still love them, but don't let those feelings control you.
I will openly admit that I still love my ex. I spent over three years of my life with that boy, of course I love him. But I don't let that control what I do. I still hangout and flirt with other guys.
You don't have to move on right away. Your allowed to not want to be in another relationship until you feel comfortable with letting another person into your life again.
After my breakup I told myself that I was going to spend my senior year of high school single. I wanted to spend my senior year focusing on myself and that is exactly what I did. And I have to say I made some great friends and memories that year.
Branch out and do the things that make you happy.
Say your ex didn't enjoy something you love. Well now there are no excuses for you not to do those things.
Make new friends.
Your friends will be the reason you learn to smile again.
Go on adventures. Go enjoy all the things this life has to offer you.
Take a walk, or a long drive.
You will be happy again.
I promise. Just be patient.
Work on yourself, for yourself.
Don't change yourself to impress others, change yourself to impress yourself.
Don't rush into a new relationship. Dating someone else is not gonna help you when your still trying to get over your ex.
Again you don't have to move on right away. Dating isn't the way to heal a broken heart.
And most importantly, find your heart.
Find out what you really want out of life and then you can find someone that makes that happen for you. Or at least someone that will help you try to achieve that.