Yeah we're alone, so what?

Yeah we're alone, so what?

Advice from a college kid who has no idea what she is doing

"Until you get comfortable with being alone you will never know if you are choosing someone out of love, or loneliness" -Mandy Hale

Alright, yeah being single kind of sucks sometimes. You see people in these happy relationships on social media getting dogs, traveling, getting engaged or married, and experiencing life together. But here is a little reminder for you: not everything is what it seems.

And I'm sure there are some couples who have all of these things listed above and more and are so happily and disgustingly in love with one another, but don't put such high expectations on yourself and your tinder date.

This past year I went through a HUGE growth period (well still going through it honestly, because I believe there is always room to learn or grow). I've come to a lot of realizations about myself and what I want FOR ME. Regarding my career; I have never been so driven about something the way I am about teaching young minds, travel goals; I want to hike Mauna Loa in Hawaii to watch the sunset, how much money I would like to save (and that is super hard for me I am the worst saver of all), and the kind of friends I would like to surround myself with. I'm finding out more and more everyday about myself, and the reason that I encourage you to do this is because I believe it is important to fall in love with yourself. Self-love tip: turn on your favorite Disney playlist, and dance your freaking heart out. No one is watching you. Go crazy! Twerk! Shake what ya mama gave ya! Be the hip-hop artist that you are deep down, and just go crazy.

Being single is so cool girls. I know it sucks seeing Chad make out with that girl at some party, but in reality, would he even be a good dog dad? Or cat dad? Probably not. So become the person you are meant to be. Water your own plants. Feed your own soul. Let yourself try the weirdest possible things like starfruit or some weird fish at the market, and then love it! Go skydiving by yourself. Go bike riding in the rain because why the hell not? Try baking that thing you saw on Buzzfeed! Whatever you do, I encourage you to try things. I remember one time that I tried to bake a cheesecake or something like that, and the thing caught fire. Literally. Don't ask me how because I still don't know.

My point here is: life is so much fun. So lets enjoy the hell out of it while we are young.

Disclaimer: I am not a life coach. I am not a love expert. I am not a million dollar match maker. I am just trying to offer some of my own personal insight on life because, we only get this once. So why not live it up as much as we can? And who knows, maybe the person you are meant to be with skydiving on the same day you are?

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25 Things About Me

On My 25th Birthday

Since my birthday is on Sunday, I decided to write an article all about me!

1. I love to cook for my husband. Actually, I like to cook period. I even have my on cooking blog titled "If You Want To Eat You Have To Cook". My favorite thing to make is anything with noodles because I love Asian food.

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2. I have a degree in Communications with a concentration in Public Relations.

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3. My favorite food to eat while I am out and about is sushi.


4. Cats are my favorite animal.


5. My favorite thing to drink is a margarita.


6. My favorite season is summer.

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7. I love making treats for my husband, such as cakes and love notes.

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8. My favorite artist is Lady Gaga.


9. My favorite movie genre is a crime drama, such as Lifetime Movies.

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10. I love wrapping presents for other people.


11. My favorite outfit is a long summer dress.


12. My favorite color is pink.


13. My most prized possession are my engagement and wedding rings.


14. I love taking black and white pictures.


15. My favorite dessert is coconut or red velvet cake.

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16. I love my parents and husband.


17. One of my guilty pleasures is binge watching the Bachelor and Bachelorette.


18. My favorite show on TV right now is Nashville.


19. I love to watch Disney movies.

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20. I love cooking with my husband.

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21. My favorite meal is steaks and gnocchi.


22. I love bingewatching TV shows on Netflix.

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23. I love taking road trips on the weekend with my husband.


24. I love getting things done early, and hate procrastination.


25. I love myself and I love being me.

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6 Signs You're Experiencing The Infamous Sophomore Slump

Stress goes up, excitement goes down.

As the end of my sophomore year in college is now in sight, I've begun to take a look back on this year and how utterly strange it has been. I've recently found a term that perfectly describes everything I've felt from this year in just two words: Sophomore Slump. This term has been coined to describe a,

"Period of developmental confusion where students may face difficulties in academic, social, and personal development. In addition, after the novelties of college social life have worn off, nothing seems quite as special."

I've definitely experienced this feeling this year, and although I find myself still enjoying college, the stresses have seemed to increase while the excitement has simultaneously worn off. If you're suffering through the Sophomore Slump as well, you might be able to relate to these tell-tale signs.

1. You went from going out every weekend to adopting a sleep schedule similar to your grandparents.

Freshman year, every weekend was full of constant opportunities for parties. You waited your whole life for the true college experience, and last year you went a little too hard. Now, you're making up for it by spending your weekends reading, sleeping and most importantly, binging the latest Netflix original special.

2. Frat parties are yesterday’s news.

I still remember the excitement leading up to frat parties during my freshman year, especially for tailgates. Now, if I ever even do go out, I prefer a house party with people I actually enjoy being around.

3. You begin questioning whether your major is right for you…and is it too late now?

Is my major the right one for me? I'm already too far in! I can't back out now! Sophomore year is basically a giant ball of stress and quarter-life crises.

4. You enjoy feeling more like an adult, but you miss the innocence of being a freshman.

As a freshman, you were still naive to adult life, and while that had its own problems, sometimes you miss being the new kid on campus with a whole world of opportunities ahead of you.

5. Somehow, if it’s even possible, your procrastination has gotten even worse.

If you thought last year was bad...

6. And you still find yourself in a constant state of denial.

It's fine, I'm fine, everything's fine.

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