Yeah we're alone, so what?

Yeah we're alone, so what?

Advice from a college kid who has no idea what she is doing
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"Until you get comfortable with being alone you will never know if you are choosing someone out of love, or loneliness" -Mandy Hale

Alright, yeah being single kind of sucks sometimes. You see people in these happy relationships on social media getting dogs, traveling, getting engaged or married, and experiencing life together. But here is a little reminder for you: not everything is what it seems.

And I'm sure there are some couples who have all of these things listed above and more and are so happily and disgustingly in love with one another, but don't put such high expectations on yourself and your tinder date.

This past year I went through a HUGE growth period (well still going through it honestly, because I believe there is always room to learn or grow). I've come to a lot of realizations about myself and what I want FOR ME. Regarding my career; I have never been so driven about something the way I am about teaching young minds, travel goals; I want to hike Mauna Loa in Hawaii to watch the sunset, how much money I would like to save (and that is super hard for me I am the worst saver of all), and the kind of friends I would like to surround myself with. I'm finding out more and more everyday about myself, and the reason that I encourage you to do this is because I believe it is important to fall in love with yourself. Self-love tip: turn on your favorite Disney playlist, and dance your freaking heart out. No one is watching you. Go crazy! Twerk! Shake what ya mama gave ya! Be the hip-hop artist that you are deep down, and just go crazy.

Being single is so cool girls. I know it sucks seeing Chad make out with that girl at some party, but in reality, would he even be a good dog dad? Or cat dad? Probably not. So become the person you are meant to be. Water your own plants. Feed your own soul. Let yourself try the weirdest possible things like starfruit or some weird fish at the market, and then love it! Go skydiving by yourself. Go bike riding in the rain because why the hell not? Try baking that thing you saw on Buzzfeed! Whatever you do, I encourage you to try things. I remember one time that I tried to bake a cheesecake or something like that, and the thing caught fire. Literally. Don't ask me how because I still don't know.

My point here is: life is so much fun. So lets enjoy the hell out of it while we are young.

Disclaimer: I am not a life coach. I am not a love expert. I am not a million dollar match maker. I am just trying to offer some of my own personal insight on life because, we only get this once. So why not live it up as much as we can? And who knows, maybe the person you are meant to be with skydiving on the same day you are?

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11 Things 20-Year-Olds Who Look 12 Are Tired Of Hearing

No, I don't need a kids' menu, thank you very much.
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I used to just laugh it off when someone thought I was 12 years old back when I was in high school, but now that I am three years deep into college getting ready to graduate, I don’t laugh anymore. If you are in the same situation as me looking like a child trying to get into a bar/club and the bouncer is questioning if your ID is fake, please read on — you may relate very much. Here are 11 things 20+ year-olds who look 12 are tired of hearing:


1. I didn’t know they let 12-year-olds work here.

Nope. They don’t.

2. What school do you go to?

Me: Florida State.

Person: University?!

3. *Tries to get a sample at Target* Is your parent nearby?

Let me FaceTime my mom really quick and ask her permission for this protein bar sample.

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4. *Server at a restaurant* Here you go, sweetie. What can I get you, darling? Hi, honey, how are you?

You are no more than three years older than me, there is no need for "sweetie."

5. It’s your birthday? Happy Birthday! How old now, fourteen/fifteen?

6. You look so much older when you wear makeup.

Is that supposed to be a compliment?

7. Wow, you're how old? You look like you are twelve.

Have you seen a twelve-year-old lately?

8. You probably just look young because you're short.


9. *Tries to flirt with a guy* You're a little too young for me I think.

I'm your age. Maybe even older.


10. Are you old enough to see this movie? Can I see your ID please?

11. You're going to be so thankful when you are in your 50's.

So I've been told. Hopefully, it's worth it.

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5 Tips For Handling A Quarter Life Crisis

Don't know what to do with your life, me either

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I thought I had my entire life figured out; career, graduate school, moving. All of it. But maybe I was wrong. I have already been accepted to graduate school, have my internship/capstone figured out but then I was given an opportunity of a lifetime to do a different internship that made me question if my plan was the right plan for me. It was terrifying, stressful and difficult to figure out what to do because it affects the rest of my life. But there are some tips you can do to keep your cool.

1.    PLAN PLAN PLAN

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Write that shit down. Take a piece of paper and plan out where each path could take you and the steps you need to take to get to each goal on the path. Seeing it all on paper will slow you down and help determine if what you're thinking is even an option.

2.    Talk to people

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Talk it out, talk to your friends, your family, your advisor. Talk to anyone you can about your plan. You will hear other people's opinions and thoughts. They may have thought of a factor that you didn't. It will help you better understand your thoughts when you explain your tornado brain to someone else.

 3.    Be Open

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This was REALLY hard for me. I talked to probably five different people about the change in life choices and heard both positive and negative thoughts. It is important to be open and listen to the negative idea even if it seems like you're being attacked. It will make you think, are you really prepared for 4-8 more years of school (or whatever else it may be).

 4.    Breathe and Stress Relieve 

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YES, this is 100% one of the biggest most stressful decision you have to make but it is also incredibly important that you are patient, and calm throughout the entire process. It is easier said than done, trust me but take five steps back, seven deep breaths and 20 minutes to relieve the built-up stress. Go to the gym, listen to music, paint, do whatever is going to put a smile on your face and calm you. Then come back to the problem with a clear head to think and process all the options.

5.    Don’t be afraid

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It is literally terrifying when you feel lost, and unsure of what to do with your life. Especially if your family is super strict and you want to keep everyone happy. But REMEMBER it is YOUR life. YOUR future. You have to worry about what is the best option for you and what will make you happy in the long run. Even if it is harder and going to take longer. Be concerned about YOURSELF and not what anyone else thinks of you.

Quarter life crises are totally normal and not fun. Don't feel like you're alone or a failure for being unsure. It is good to explore all your options and be the happiest you can be. If that takes a little freak out and some stress so is it. Just use these steps to make the best of it.

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