Yeah we're alone, so what?

Yeah we're alone, so what?

Advice from a college kid who has no idea what she is doing

"Until you get comfortable with being alone you will never know if you are choosing someone out of love, or loneliness" -Mandy Hale

Alright, yeah being single kind of sucks sometimes. You see people in these happy relationships on social media getting dogs, traveling, getting engaged or married, and experiencing life together. But here is a little reminder for you: not everything is what it seems.

And I'm sure there are some couples who have all of these things listed above and more and are so happily and disgustingly in love with one another, but don't put such high expectations on yourself and your tinder date.

This past year I went through a HUGE growth period (well still going through it honestly, because I believe there is always room to learn or grow). I've come to a lot of realizations about myself and what I want FOR ME. Regarding my career; I have never been so driven about something the way I am about teaching young minds, travel goals; I want to hike Mauna Loa in Hawaii to watch the sunset, how much money I would like to save (and that is super hard for me I am the worst saver of all), and the kind of friends I would like to surround myself with. I'm finding out more and more everyday about myself, and the reason that I encourage you to do this is because I believe it is important to fall in love with yourself. Self-love tip: turn on your favorite Disney playlist, and dance your freaking heart out. No one is watching you. Go crazy! Twerk! Shake what ya mama gave ya! Be the hip-hop artist that you are deep down, and just go crazy.

Being single is so cool girls. I know it sucks seeing Chad make out with that girl at some party, but in reality, would he even be a good dog dad? Or cat dad? Probably not. So become the person you are meant to be. Water your own plants. Feed your own soul. Let yourself try the weirdest possible things like starfruit or some weird fish at the market, and then love it! Go skydiving by yourself. Go bike riding in the rain because why the hell not? Try baking that thing you saw on Buzzfeed! Whatever you do, I encourage you to try things. I remember one time that I tried to bake a cheesecake or something like that, and the thing caught fire. Literally. Don't ask me how because I still don't know.

My point here is: life is so much fun. So lets enjoy the hell out of it while we are young.

Disclaimer: I am not a life coach. I am not a love expert. I am not a million dollar match maker. I am just trying to offer some of my own personal insight on life because, we only get this once. So why not live it up as much as we can? And who knows, maybe the person you are meant to be with skydiving on the same day you are?

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15 Stores That Have Free Gifts For You On Your Birthday, Yes, Even In Your 20s

Is it worth all of the free stuff? YES!

Do yourself a favor and go sign up for all of these rewards programs below. I are thinking about all the emails you are going to receive..but is it worth all of the free stuff? YES!

1. Auntie Anne's

Sign up for pretzel perk (really easy), and you get a free pretzel on your birthday. Who doesn't love Auntie Anne's? Perfect snack while you are on your birthday shopping spree! Don't get me started on those cinnamon sugar covered pretzels!

2. Baskin Robbins

Go in and tell them it is your birthday, and you will receive a Free Ice Cream. Their Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough is THE best, but its impossible to order wrong at Baskin Robbins.

3. Cracker Barrel

Go in and tell them it is your birthday, and you will receive a Free Dessert. Look around in the store, play some chess just like old times, and it would be such a great, down to earth place to celebrate!

4. Kendra Scott

1/2 off on one item during your birthday month. All you need is your ID, and they will discount your item!


Free meal on your birthday! Pancakes here I come!

6. Krispy Kreme

Sign up for eclub, receive a free donut :) Easy enough! I mean who doesn't want to bite into that a warm, sweet, sticky donut?

7. Panera

Sign up for (free) Panera Rewards, and receive free dessert. Oh, that is after your mac and cheese...ofcourse.

8. P.F Changs

Create an account = Free Appetizer or Dessert during your birthday month (THANK YOU FOR NOT LIMITING IT TO THE ONE DAY)

9. Sephora

Register with Sephora and they will give you a free gift on your birthday.

10. Steak n' Shake

Sign up for E Club for a free menu item on your birthday.

11. Starbucks

Getting tired running around to recieve your free items? Stop by Starbucks with your reward (app) to get a free drink!

12. Columbia Sportswear

Get that jacket you've been waiting for to go on sale, because you receive a 20% off coupon if you sign up for their rewards club.

13. ULTA Beauty

Get a free gift once you sign up for their (free) rewards. While you are in there, might want to ask for a free makeover?

14. Einstein Bros Bagels

Get your free birthday breakfast on them if you join their EClub (Again very easy)

15. DSW

Recieve a $5 Gift Certificate if you join their rewards, which is super easy because they just send you emails which most of the time is coupons.

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Dear Dad, Happy Father's day

A letter of remembrance from the last 20 years


Dear, Dad I have been staring at this blank screen for about twenty minutes, thinking of how to start this letter. So, I'll try.

Dad, one of my earliest memories is back when I was three, and I was on your shoulders putting a garland of flowers on a Ganesh statue during Rinkoo Mamu's wedding. I remember laughing and never wanting to leave this moment. I was always going to be your little girl. Fast forwarding to when I was four on my way to my first day of kindergarten and holding your hand so tightly because I was afraid of going. You didn't let go of my hand.

When I was five, I remember you tucking me in because I had a severe fever and putting on my favorite show, "Kipper" and sitting there smiling because I was laughing. When I was six, I remember you sitting in the hospital, holding my hand because I had to get stitches from a nail cutting my foot in the bathroom. You never left my side. When I was seven, I remember you telling me to sleep because I was so excited about going to Disney world. You always knew how to get me smile. When I was eight, I remember you telling me that it was okay to get C's and that I was a sharp kid with a bright mind. I can do better.

When I was nine, I remember you telling me about our family and culture and you enlightened my mind knowledge and stories. I always love your stories. When I was ten, I remember you telling me how proud you were of me for graduating from elementary school and how fast I was growing. I was going to go big places one day.

When I was eleven, I remember how excited you were that I got straight A's, even in math. After all, I am your daughter. When I was twelve, I remember you comforting me in the hospital and telling me that mom was going to be alright and even though the car crash was bad, we were lucky to alive. When I was thirteen, I remember how excited I was going to Harry Potter world. I couldn't believe it, and you made it happen. On my fourteenth birthday, I remember you giving me an iPhone 4s and seeing how excited and surprised I was. You always love surprising me.

When I was fifteen, I remember you telling me to take more advanced and challenging classes, and that I was smart enough for it. You never gave up on me. When I was sixteen, you drove us to Niagara Falls for a family trip on the 4th of July. You love taking us on adventures and always think of the family. When I was seventeen, you made my dream come alive by taking our family to Europe. You smiled as I gasped in excitement in London.

When I was eighteen, you hugged me so tightly because Kayla had lost her father. The thought of losing you was too painful. At graduation, you couldn't stop smiling because your little girl had graduated and was going to college. Going on a new journey and doing big things. At nineteen, you told me to follow my dreams as a writer and journalist and said you always support me, no matter what. You were never going to leave my side. At twenty, you told me that you can keep things between us and that when I have anxiety attacks, I can confide in you.

That was our father and daughter deal. Also when I was twenty, you hugged me tightly as I cried because I finally got into my dream school, UMD. I was going to make you proud. The point is Dad, you were always there for me when I needed you or even when I didn't ask. I am able to conquer the world because of you. I know you didn't have a father growing up most of your life, and that becoming a father was the most challenging job you can have, but you did a good job in raising your kids, and we are glad to have you in our lives. We love you, Dad.

Love: Ambika, Akash and Pappu

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