In today's day and age, we have endless information at our fingertips. Social media tells us everything from what a person likes or dislikes to the last picture they liked on Instagram. These tools are no longer reserved for just keeping up with friends and making connections, but dating has now entered the ring. Finding love over the internet, sounds like fiction.
Reality television boasts a quick and easy "love" from shows like The Bachelor, and let's face it, it's great television. But that's the point. It is there for our entertainment just like the apps like Tinder and Bumble. For some, this may work but for many, it is just another means to get our hopes us.
I constantly hear people saying how they wish it was as simple to date nowadays as it was years ago. Sadly, it probably won't become that simple again, mostly because of technology. But since we are living in a world of likes and swipes, would you "swipe right" on you?
It's very easy to blame the world around us for why our love life isn't how we had hoped it would be. Maybe if the timing was better, I can't handle a relationship right now, I'm too busy; these are all excuses for why our relationships aren't working. We've become quick to say that the situations around us aren't improving but in hindsight, we were't improving ourselves for that future relationship. It's time to stop blaming and to start owning.
We have to own our problems and difficulties in order to get that attainable relationship. We have to stop assuming that the perfect man or woman is just going to land in front of us, because it won't happen. In a relationship, it's about work, and that includes working on ourselves. If you can't be happy with yourself and, essentially, in a relationship with yourself, how can you expect happiness and love from some else?
Many times, we think that if our significant other changed something about them or what they do that the relationship will work and any problems will disappear, but remember, relationships aren't one-sided. If you enter with an open mind and confidence in yourself, then you and that other person will be able to communicate what you each want out of that relationship.
Always remember that you are ever changing, and therefore so is your relationship. Finding who you are when you are outside of a relationship will make you more prepared to enter one and will make it increasingly healthier because you know who you are with and without them. You complete yourself, no one else. Love every part of you and that will attract someone that loves you like you love yourself.
