Worrying About Control Is A Waste Of Your Time

Worrying About Control Is A Waste Of Your Time

Sometimes, things are out of your control, and that's okay.
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There's a lot of things everyone is passionate about; school, work, hobbies, it can really be anything. And because we have so much passion for this things, we can tend to take them very seriously; whether that's sitting down for six hours a day studying for school, routinely working overtime to get everything done on time, or going a night without sleeping just to finish that one last page. While we can have that much passion for something, it would do us well to remember that not everyone else will have that level have passion, or even seriousness, as we do.

One of my biggest passions is writing; whether I'm writing a paper for class, a short story for my own amusement, or even an article for The Odyssey, I have an incredible amount of fun doing it. But what brings me the most amount of joy is when I can write my own worlds, creating people and places that all have a multitude of stories to tell. Honestly, I think that's my calling in life, to create these stories, regardless of what they say; I just have so much passion for it that I really cannot see myself stopping anytime soon!

Of course, along with this passion comes an equal amount of seriousness; if I am writing something, then I am sitting down and doing it god damn it, and nothing is going to stop me otherwise. And as a result, I expect other people to have the same amount of respect and seriousness for my work that I do, because what's the point of making anything if people aren't going to give it the time of day? Now, most of the time, I don't have this kind of problem...but there have been a couple of times where this has been the case.

A little bit of backstory first, however. I run a role-playing game with a large group of friends; I create the world and story, they create their characters and have fun in my world and story. I absolutely love it and have put a fair amount of hours into crafting everything to my expectations, even if it can be mediocre at times. However, my friends to tend to come into the game and screw everything up, but that's completely okay! In fact, I routinely come into the game hoping that that will happen, it's what makes the game so much fun!

The only thing that I ask of my players, however, is to be just a tad bit serious about the game sometimes; whether that's them listening to a very dramatic scene that I put together, or them just getting their work done so we can play the game, all I ask is that they show a tiny bit of respect for the amount of time and effort that I have put into this campaign, if you will. Fortunately for me, more than half of them do this, and it warms my heart to see it...however there are still some problem people.

I won't go into any specifics, as there is a moderate chance that they might read this article in the near future, and I don't want to offend anyone. But some of these people...just give me massive headaches! They don't take my work seriously, at all. Their actions, body language, and conversations both inside the game and outside show that they couldn't give two shits about what I've done, and honestly, it irritates me to no end.

"But Jake!" you might say, "It's just a game! Why get so worked up and offended about it all?" Well, random reader, I agree with you to some extent; this whole thing is just a game, and getting worked up about it is like getting worked up over your favorite characters from a TV show not getting together, or getting worked up over the title of a book because it's slightly offensive. However...try to see things from my point of view.

I have sunk almost a years worth of work into this game, and as a writer, I would like to see my work to the end; I don't give up halfway through and call it quits, if I make something, I WILL finish it. Which makes the whole situation even more irritating! They look at this game and think that it doesn't matter, that it's fine to just never, ever, take seriously. Thankfully, the majority of my players are not like this; they know how much time and effort I've put into this, they know that I am absolutely in love with the characters I've made; they know this, and their actions show it.

It's just...amazing to see this blatant disrespect. Even when their friends are taking everything seriously, they still see it as something that isn't worthy of their attention. And I've wrestled with this for some time now; do I bring it up to them? Do I ignore it and let the other players get frustrated at them? (Because believe me, it's happened.) Do I just cut them out entirely and say, "Tough shit, you should have taken things more seriously"? It took me a while but I finally came to the best solution: let it happen.

Now, why would I do something like that? After all, I just got done ranting about how frustrated I am at them. So why, in my sane and rational mind, would I just let it continue? Well, the answer is simple: life isn't fair. I can't control what people are passionate about, I can't control what people take seriously, I can't control any of that! So it isn't worth my time and energy to be frustrated.

If I can't change it, what's the point of thinking about it? Luckily, in my situation, those who do take the game seriously have said in not so pleasant terms that they are getting pissed off by how they treat the whole thing. They all claim that I don't have do any of this for them and that they should show some respect for the amount of time I've dedicated to the game. Thankfully, it has worked on one of them, but not the other; but the important thing is, is that it's not me who's doing the talking.

I guess what I am trying to get across is that not everyone you meet in life, be it your friends or family, will give you the amount of seriousness you think you deserve for something. And that's okay. You can't control how they feel about, the only thing you can do is to tell them, or in my case, have other people accidentally tell them, that you don't appreciate their lack of respect.

Maybe they do a complete 180, and apologize for their behavior...maybe they still just don't give a shit and simply refuse to take anything you do seriously. Whatever your outcome, just remember...you can't control every aspect of your life. Once you start to practice that mantra, life gets a little bit easier.

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100 Instagram Captions You'll Want To Use Right Now

Quotes, lyrics, sayings, and other ideas for Instagram captions!
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When it comes to Instagram we are often thinking about what to use as a caption for our photos that we take that we really want to post on Instagram. Sometimes we post the photo without a caption and sometimes we just use an emoji because we're stumped on finding a good caption to use for the photo. So we go the short route and just put an emoji as a caption for our photo. Well whether it is a selfie, a friend pic, group pic, or just need a caption for the photo, here are 100 captions to use for a photo. Some are lyrics, some are quotes and some are just a quick caption to use on your photo. Also here are some accounts you can follow that are worth following:

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-@sailorhaley

-@sandcloudteam

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Here are Quotes To Use As A Caption/ Lyrics To Use As A Caption/ Quick Little Sayings To Use As A Caption: for your instagram photo that you wish to post !

1.Life goes on, with or without you.

2.Don't Worry Be Happy ! Bob Marley

3. Be Happy

4.Be Confident

5. Be Positive

6. Don't be a liar, everyone hates a liar

7. Chillen With My Peeps

8. Go Big Or Go Home

9. What's the deal?

10.The most important thing is to enjoy your life – to be happy – it's all that matters.

11.Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.

12, You couldn't handle me even if I came with instructions.

13. You couldn't handle me even if I came with instructions.

14. Forgive, yes. Forget, never.

15.There's a hole in my heart where you use to be.

16. I don't need any part time people in my life.

17. Get the Gist

18. Boy, it's the 21st centurey get with the program.

19. Hey, I just met you, this is crazy

20. I woke up like this

21. Keep smiling because life is a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about.

22. Beauty is power; a smile is it's sword

23. Last Day Of Class

24. I Donut Care

25. Got my donut and coffee today

26.Happy as a clam

27. Beach Days are the best

28.A friend will always make you smile, especially when you don't want to…

29. Always classy, never trashy, and a little bit sassy.

30. If only we could turn back time...

31. With You, I forget all my problems. With You, Time Stands Still.

32. Life's a climb, but the view is great

33. Ohana, means family, family means no one gets left behind or forgotten.

34. We come to love by not finding the perfect person but by learning to see imperfect person perfectly.

35. If I ever write a story about my life, don't be surprised if your name appears billion times.

36. "She's got that red lip, classic thing going on"

37 .I don't know what's tighter, our jeans or our friendship!

38. Best Friends make good times better and hard times easier!

39. Not sure what I did to deserve you as my best friend :)

40. I don't need your approval to be me.

41. So call me? maybe

42.I am who.I am, I am what I am, I do what I do and I ain't never gonna do it any different. I don't care who likes it and who don't.

43. Take me as I am, or watch me as I go.

44. Kiss me under the light of a thousand stars - Ed Sheeran

45. Cause you're a sky full of stars- Cold Play

46 . I keep dancing on my own- Calum Scott

47. Can't keep my hands to myself- Selena Gomez

48. I just want to look good for you- Selena Gomez

49. Kill em with kindness -Selena Gomez

50. I am not perfect. I make mistakes. But when I say Sorry… I mean it!

51. Me? Weird? Please! I am Limited Edition

52, Turn that frown upside down

53. Smile its the best thing a girl can wear

54, Stay true

55. Laughing is the best medicine you can ever get!

56. You're the king, baby I'm your queen

57. Best Friends Forever !!!

58.Throwing it back to the good ole days!

59. Ugg Life

60. I know you like first name basis

61. *Sends selfie to NASA cuz I'm a star*

62. Basic white girl

63. Frisky Friday

64. My thoughts are stars that I cannot fathom into constellations,

65. Maybe our okays will be our infinities - The Fault In Our Stars

66. So hold onto me because i'm a little unsteady - Unsteady

67. This has got to be the best day of my life - Best Day Of My LIfe - American Author

68. She;s the beauty and he's the beast

69. All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them. -Walt Disney

70. If you can dream it, you can do it.-Walt Disney

71.Hakuna Matata it means no worries for the rest of your days - The LIon King

72. "The past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it, or learn from it." — Rafiki,

73. "Remember you're the one who can fill the world with sunshine." — Snow White, Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs

74 ."The flower that blooms in adversity is the most rare and beautiful of all." — The Emperor, Mulan

75. "You don't have time to be timid. You must be bold and daring." — Lumière, Beauty and the Beast

76."All it takes is faith and trust." -- Peter Pan (Peter Pan)

77."A little consideration, a little thought for others, makes all the difference." -- Eeyore (Winnie the Pooh)

78."If you focus on what you left behind, you will never be able to see what lies ahead." -- Gusteau (Ratatouille)

79. "The flower that blooms in adversity is the most rare and beautiful of all." -- The Emperor (Mulan)

80."A true hero isn't measured by the size of his strength, but by the strength of his heart." -- Zeus (Hercules)

81."Life's not a spectator sport. If watchin' is all you're gonna do, then you're gonna watch your life go by without ya." -- Laverne (The Hunchback of Notre Dame)

82. "The things that make me different are the things that make me ME." -- Piglet (Winnie the Pooh)

83."Giving up is for rookies." -- Philoctetes (Hercules)

84.. "Happiness is the richest thing we will ever own." -- Donald Duck

85. "Change is good." -- Rafiki (The Lion King)

86."Remember, you're the one who can fill the world with sunshine." -- Snow White (Snow White and the Seven Dwarves)

87. "All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them." -- Walt Disney

88.Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sunset sky. Rabindranath Tagore
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89.The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart. Helen Keller
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90.The sky broke like an egg into full sunset and the water caught fire. Pamela Hansford Johnson
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91.Put your heart, mind, and soul into even your smallest acts. This is the secret of success. Swami Sivananda
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92..Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain... To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices - today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it. Kevyn Aucoin
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93.Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'! Audrey Hepburn
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94. Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you. Walt Whitman
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95.My power's turned on

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96.Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared. Buddha
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97.Let your life lightly dance on the edges of Time like dew on the tip of a leaf. Rabindranath Tagore
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98.I hated every minute of training, but I said, 'Don't quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.' Muhammad Ali
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99. Why don't you be you

And I'll be me

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100. Life is like a camera, we focus on the positives and develop from the negatives.

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Best Foods at the Big E!

The Big E stands for the Eastern States Exposition which is known as the New England's Great State Fair. The Big E is in the town of West Springfield in Massachusetts which is a neighboring town of where I live. Therefore, I grew up going to the Big E every year many times because it only runs once a year for three weeks, at the end of September to October. It is everyone's favor time of the year, except for the traffic that it brings.

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1. Billy's Baked Potatoes

THE BEST. This has to be one of my favorite foods at the Big E. Every year the first time I go, I go straight to the Billy's Baked Potato stand. I highly recommend.


2. Fried Oreos

A CLASSIC. Fried oreos are at almost all fairs and just a classic fair food. This is something else I always get at least once.


3. Mini Donuts

YUM. Mini donuts that are cooked right in front of you. This is something that I always get on my way out of the Big E at night, can't go wrong with either powder sugar or cinnamon.


4. Philly Steak and Cheese

YES. This is my dad's favorite food at the Big E. Anytime I go and he cannot, I get one and take it home for him.


5. Craz-E burger

UM WHAT. I ca not say this is something I have ever indulged in but it has such good reviews. It might sound gross and very out there, but it a big hit for others.


6. Deep fried cannoli

LOVE. Cannoli's are such a sweet treat but imagine them deep fried? Yes... it is very unhealthy but sometimes you have to treat yourself. Just think, this is only once a year.


7. 1 Pound Meatball

WOW. Holy meat, yes this is a meatball. Yes, it weighs a pound. A local company provides this and is a huge, delicious hit at the Big E.


8. Turkey Leg

VERY WEIRD. People walk around chomping on it and carrying it around. This is only seen at the Big E.


9. Fried Dough

CLASSIC. Fried dough is also at every fair or carnival. Everyone should take advantage of this fried dough, again with powdered sugar or cinnamon.


10. Giant Mozzarella Stick

CHEESY. Yes, everyone loves mozzarella sticks but has anyone seen one this big? I bet not, unless you have attended the Big E.


Along with the food, there are carnival rides, carnival games, New England state buildings, animals, shops, parades, concerts, and plenty of events. The Big E is somewhere that everyone should try to visit because the experience is unlike any other. It is a very popular fair that I will always continue to go. Always explore the foods you like... travel here... and most importantly, be you!!

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