To Anyone Working On Themselves Right Now, I'm So Proud Of You

To Anyone Working On Themselves Right Now, I'm So Proud Of You

I'm so proud of you for taking the time you need for your well-being!


I think one of the best things anyone can do to keep their lives balanced is taking the time they need to figure out where their heart is currently. Taking the time you need for yourself is the most beneficial thing you can do to clear your head, mind, and body.

I've been in therapy since I was 17 and taking the time you need to clear all toxicity out of your life is one of the main things my therapists have advised me to do and honestly, it has been incredibly beneficial in my life. Taking the time you need to heal takes courage because our society normalized the thought that once something terrible in your life happens, you just have to move on and get over it immediately. This is far from the truth. If you don't give yourself the time you personally need to heal from something that has happened to you, you will always find yourself stuck in your own toxic ways.

Here's an example, if you were emotionally manipulated or abused in a pretty long-term relationship, once that relationship is over, most people will try and tell you to just get over it and move on already, or you'll try to take matters into your own hands and move on before you're ready to. This will just make it worse and you'll find yourself back in another emotionally manipulative relationship because you never sat yourself down and reflected on what the prior relationship did to you. In order to leave your toxic habits behind, you have to find the courage in yourself to sit down and conquer your demons one by one.

I appreciate the people who choose to take the time they need to work on themselves because it will help them in the long run. You can't give your heart to someone deserving of it until you take back the pieces of your heart others have kept from you. You can't give your all to someone if your heart is in a million places, so taking the time to regain those missing pieces help free you and enable you to give your all to that someone who deserves it.

When tragedies strike us, we all have that fight or flight instinct. We all have to remember that rather than going with our gut instinct to either run or hide, sometimes we need to just take it slow and work on solving our problems. It's like they say, great things never come from comfort zones. Taking whatever time you need to work on the problems inside of you help conquer your fight or flight responses and show you that some things in life are worth working on.

If you're someone who is taking the time to work on your life, I am so, incredibly, proud of you. I know I am always taking whatever time I need to work on myself and it has helped me through many tough times in my life. I think everyone needs to remember that even miracles take a little time and to never rush your life. Take it slow and let life take you where you need to go. Love everyone with no regrets and never forget that you are loved and valued by many.

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30 Things I'd Rather Be Than 'Pretty'

Because "pretty" is so overrated.

Nowadays, we put so much emphasis on our looks. We focus so much on the outside that we forget to really focus on what matters. I was inspired by a list that I found online of "Things I Would Rather Be Called Instead Of Pretty," so I made my own version. Here is a list of things that I would rather be than "pretty."

1. Captivating

I want one glance at me to completely steal your breath away.

2. Magnetic

I want people to feel drawn to me. I want something to be different about me that people recognize at first glance.

3. Raw

I want to be real. Vulnerable. Completely, genuinely myself.

4. Intoxicating

..and I want you addicted.

5. Humble

I want to recognize my abilities, but not be boastful or proud.

6. Exemplary

I want to stand out.

7. Loyal

I want to pride myself on sticking out the storm.

8. Fascinating

I want you to be hanging on every word I say.

9. Empathetic

I want to be able to feel your pain, so that I can help you heal.

10. Vivacious

I want to be the life of the party.

11. Reckless

I want to be crazy. Thrilling. Unpredictable. I want to keep you guessing, keep your heart pounding, and your blood rushing.

12. Philanthropic

I want to give.

13. Philosophical

I want to ask the tough questions that get you thinking about the purpose of our beating hearts.

14. Loving

When my name is spoken, I want my tenderness to come to mind.

15. Quaintrelle

I want my passion to ooze out of me.

16. Belesprit

I want to be quick. Witty. Always on my toes.

17. Conscientious

I want to always be thinking of others.

18. Passionate

...and I want people to know what my passions are.

19. Alluring

I want to be a woman who draws people in.

20. Kind

Simply put, I want to be pleasant and kind.

21. Selcouth

Even if you've known me your whole life, I want strange, yet marvelous. Rare and wondrous.

22. Pierian

From the way I move to the way I speak, I want to be poetic.

23. Esoteric

Do not mistake this. I do not want to be misunderstood. But rather I'd like to keep my circle small and close. I don't want to be an average, everyday person.

24. Authentic

I don't want anyone to ever question whether I am being genuine or telling the truth.

25. Novaturient

..about my own life. I never want to settle for good enough. Instead I always want to seek to make a positive change.

26. Observant

I want to take all of life in.

27. Peart

I want to be honestly in good spirits at all times.

28. Romantic

Sure, I want to be a little old school in this sense.

29. Elysian

I want to give you the same feeling that you get in paradise.

30. Curious

And I never want to stop searching for answers.
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Don't Forget About Self-Love

It's been a long winter, don't forget to put yourself first.


For most people, spring break still isn't for another few weeks and let's be honest - it's very needed at this point. January felt like five months just by itself and it feels like winter has been going on for years. So amidst midterms, jobs, events, and everything else going on remember that sometimes you need to put yourself first.

It doesn't help anyone for you to be constantly busy and beating yourself up when one thing goes wrong. This especially doesn't help you. Everyone is feeling pressure from something, and no one is going to blame you for using some of your free time to get yourself back on track. You're much more useful when you're cup is full than when you're completely drained from trying to do everything at all times.

In college, we learn to be people-pleasers whether we want to or not. You want to impress your professor, your boss, and even your friends. You want everyone to think that you are having the most amazing time at all times. Sometimes a lot of negative feelings come up when you can't be doing something for everyone and then you feel liked you've failed.

This pressure is especially true for graduating seniors. We're all so focused on what's next and how we can maximize all our time left that we forget to take care of ourselves. We take on every project we can to prove we can do it. We try to hang out with everyone we know because we may never see them again after graduation. We constantly worry that we're just running out of time to do everything. Sometimes we forget that if we burn ourselves out now, we're not going to be able to do much later.

While the solution isn't to just give up and become a hermit, we need to realize that sometimes the best thing to do is to take a step back. If you have thirty different projects going on ask for help on some of them. Collaborating is much easier than drowning in endless work. If you have free time and you've been busy all week take a night off instead of committing to seeing every friend you have. Self-breaks are sometimes the best breaks.

In the end, remember that you're not alone by any means when it comes to anything you're feeling and sometimes it just takes getting away to get better.

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