How many times have you heard one of your friends, or even yourself (no judgement here) say, that girl could lose some weight, or, those jeans make her look fat? I know it all seems so harmless, but I think it’s time we put a stop to the insults, ladies. These whispered comments often have a way of getting back to people, and the damage can be unforeseen. The saying ‘sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me’ is a load of crap. Ask any girl. I prefer the saying, ‘words cut deeper than knives.’
Whether you would like to admit it or not, there has been a time in your life when someone you love, or even a complete stranger has hurled some insult your way that completely changed your perspective on yourself. Now, if you’re stronger than this, I applaud you, really. But, if you’re like me, then you know just how life shattering any synonym of fat can be. Ladies, I am asking you now, haven’t we gotten enough of this from men and the media? Do we really need to sling it on each other?
That insult you didn't think your friend, or a stranger, would hear has the potential to send someone's life into a downward spiral. We have no idea of knowing what is beneath the mask. That girl you just called fat could have been battling anorexia for years, and you, ma’am, just made it worse. While this seems radical, according to the ANAD, 30 million people suffer from an eating disorder. Ladies, we need to bring each other up, not tear each other down. The pressure that has been put on us to resemble Victoria's Secret models is unfair. The average girl will look nothing like Candice Swanepoel, and that's perfectly fine. In both cases, the women are beautiful.
God made each and everyone of us just the way we are. We have no right to call another individual anything less than perfect. If we insult one another, we are insulting God’s work. Genesis 1:27 says, “So God created human beings, making them to be like himself.” We are made in the image of God, and there is absolutely no way that be can be ugly. The only imperfections we have can come from within, and we have no right to judge one another on these.
So, the next time you see someone who you don’t believe to be beautiful, just remember they are beautiful in the eyes of God. Choose to see the beauty in every individual instead of being quick to point out their flaws. Outward beauty and fast metabolisms fade, but if you have beauty within, that will stay forever. We need to battle the unfair expectations of beauty that has been thrown on women, not try to shame others by insane diets and cruel words. There is a difference between trying to be healthy and trying to fit in. Don’t make each other cross this line.
