4 Reasons You're Disrespectful AF For Referring To Women As 'Females'

4 Reasons You're Disrespectful AF For Referring To Women As 'Females'

It's really simple.


I have always been turned off by men who use the word "females" to describe women. I mean, I had never heard those men use the word "males" to describe themselves. In fact, time and time again I would hear men use the words "females" and "men" in the same sentence or thought. And if that wasn't suspect enough, I began hearing men use the word "female" to describe a black woman and then "woman" to describe a white woman, again in the same thought. So what is really being said, here?

1. "Woman" and "female" do indeed have two different meanings.

First of all, it is dehumanizing and completely neglects the fact that the poor person being referred to is, in fact, a person when you refer to them as plainly "female."

The term "woman" refers specifically to human beings, while the term "female" is a scientific term used to describe the sex of species capable of giving birth. Ergo, you'd refer to your dog as "female," and your wife as a "woman." There is no need to refer to a woman by her reproductive abilities because women are not just sexual objects here for your consumption.

2. It's grammatically incorrect.

The word "female" is an adjective, and if we can think all the way back to the 5th grade, we remember that adjectives can only be used with a noun, not in place of one. And in case we have forgotten, a noun is a person, place, thing or idea, while adjectives are for describing those nouns.

Using an adjective without a noun would be like someone saying, "The obedient behaved the whole semester," instead of "The obedient class behaved the whole semester"

So for our delight, every language in the world has come up with a NOUN to refer to humans with vaginas... women, mujer, donne, femmes... do we get the point?

Now, you can say, "female President," or "female mathematician," because in those cases, "President" and "mathematician" are the nouns connected to the adjective.

3. It has a colloquial meaning, and you know it.

We all know "female" is a synonym for "bitch." Stop the games. Ya know, kinda like when white people say "thug" in place of "nigger." We know what you mean. And in listening to people who frequently use the term "female," as opposed to "woman," you'll notice they generally do so in an aggressive way. The term is usually used to imply contempt or inferiority, especially when the emphasis is put on the first syllable "FEmales!"

And if you've ever been called a misogynist for using the term, well there's a reason for that. More often than not the term is used by those with backward and toxic views of women.

4. You know all of this.

You're not that dumb. This has been explained to you time and time again in one form or another. You just chose to ignore it because you either hate women and think of us as just "females" or your too proud and don't like to admit when you're wrong.

And I know what you are saying, "why are you females so offended about everything?" "It's not even that deep," "Uh! Not everything is sexist," "It's not negative." But it actually is offensive. It's rooted in patriarchy and the mere fact that the majority of women would prefer you refer to them as women should be enough.

And the pushback from people who are guilty of incorrectly and inappropriately using the term "female," is enough to give pause. When I've asked to be referred to as a woman, I've been met with resistance, anger, and confusion.


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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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10 Songs To Make You Feel Like A Strong(er) Woman

Sometimes all we need is a good song (or 10) to remind us of our value


Self-confidence is one of the most important traits a woman can possess, however, at times it can be hard to truly display it. With the help of some of America's finest women, I have compiled a playlist that will remind you that you are worth... or more importantly you enough just the way you are. Enjoy!

1. Truth Hurts- Lizzo

I heard this song for the first time when I was at the meet the exec workout for my CHAARG group on campus. Although the song mainly centers around a broken relationship, I couldn't help but feel inspired. This song made me feel capable of getting though my workout and getting though life in general even if I'm on my own.

2. Confident- Demi Lovato

C'mon people the word confident is in the title, so of course I had to include it in my list. This song reminds me that I can (and should) live my life with no regrets, because the only one who runs this show is me.

3. Born This Way- Lady Gaga

Lady Gaga has always been my go-to artist, but I always turn to this song when I question if they way I am or who I am is "ok". This song taught me to love myself for who I am and to never hide my true being in fear of being embarrassed.

4. Nice For What- Drake 

Drake appreciates the female hustle and so do I. Never should we have to feel bad about what we do in order to reach our success, no matter how much those around us talk down to us.

5. ***Flawless- Beyoncé

Of course I had to include THE queen in my list... but honestly this is the BEST power anthem and epitomizes how successful women can be on their own.

6. God is a woman- Ariana Grande

Like many of the other songs on this list, this song shows how strong and capable women are- going so far as to compare them to someone who is considered to be the strongest being of them all.

7. Woman- Kesha ft. The Dap-Kings Horns

A strong woman is an independent woman and Kesha tells us that with this rockin' song.

8. Independent Woman, Pt.1

Having a man IS nice, but it definitely isn't necessary, so if you need the reminder: whatever you could do in a relationship with a man, you can do on your own. The world is yours girl, go after it!

9. Fighter- Christina Aguilera 

Christina shows us that no matter the obstacles in our path, we can (and will) rise again because we all they do is provide more motivation to reach our goals.

10. Nobody's Perfect- Hannah Montana

The OG confidence boost jam. But in all seriousness, this song continually reminds me and so many others that perfection is a myth and there's no one individual who exemplifies perfection, further proving that we should all accept our flaws.

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