“You have got to stop calling each other sluts and whores. It just makes it okay for guys to call you sluts and whores.”-Sharon Norbury.

We have all seen “Mean Girls” and we’ve all heard those wise words. But, how many of us have actually taken them into consideration? Ladies, this one is for you, us, because we need a wake up call, and we need it now.

I’m not going to get into the controversial wage gap, or why women are set at a different standard than men, not today. This is between US, and the ridiculous standard that we set for ourselves and for our fellow women. Why is it that we are so hard on each other? Think about it, we literally hate each other at times, sometimes for no reason whatsoever. We pick apart every detail of the next girl and ruin reputations before they even begin. It’s almost like lifting each other up is not an option so we simply do the opposite. I am

sick and tired of women treating each other like the enemy and making life a competition when in reality we are the greatest team.

I know what you’re thinking: SHE DOESN’T EVEN GO HERE, but hear me out. We spend so much time analyzing and shaming our sisters, that we forget we are ONE. We have one universal struggle whether you know it or not, and that is being seen as more than something to look at. No, all men aren’t the devil and no the world isn’t out to bury us. The sad truth is, we bury each other more than anyone else ever could.

Let me ask you this, have you ever felt like that group of girls at the mall was judging every step you took? That’s because they probably were.

Have YOU ever judged someone because of looks, reputation, or jealousy? I know I have.

Mess with a mean girl? You don’t get beat: you get utterly defeated. Your reputation is down the drain and you MUST walk your head hung in shame, and for some odd reason, we thrive off of that.

Women have this invisible layer of obligatory purity around them, and as soon as it is broken so is the woman. Why is that? I am so tired of seeing “she wears too much makeup” “she’s such a whore” “she is trash” etc. I am sick and tired of seeing the ruthless criticism and anger toward one another. I’m tired of women not seeing their own worth because of other women.

Here is what I’ve learned through the years; your own success as a woman will never be decided through your criticism of another female. Empowerment fulfills the soul so much more than negativity. Have faith and respect thy sister. And NEVER judge a lady book by its cover, because I promise you, we have too many eyes on us, too many odds set against us to worry about the next woman judging us. Stick together, give compliments, and realize that we are in this together. Lets stop picking apart and start gluing together.