Women Expect Men To Balance Respect And Romance But Neither Know How

Women Expect Men To Balance Respect And Romance But Neither Know How

Respect and romance are not the same, but they can be.

Relationships are a commitment with another person you find more significant than yourself. It is a selfless act that puts your partner before yourself. What makes a relationship worth the time and effort is the mutual understanding and exchange of thoughts, words, and actions while noting the differences that rest between each other.

Emotions should be expressed, discussed, and of course respected but a relationship shouldn't become a therapy session, or one void of romance, all the time. The balance lies between woman's tenacious charm and man's obstinate routine.

Traditional relationships will treat couples as men and women but dating culture today feels less consequential, if not responsible, and the selfish irony is that a relationship only matters when it affects one partner over another without the other's complete knowledge. The expectations of a woman should not be so different from the expectations of a man if it means being with each other.

The problem for men and women is that their expectations fall short of reality because they attempt to be a fantasy. No man and no woman wants to be any older than they will be and there's nothing wrong with maintaining your boyhood or girlhood. For a relationship to develop well and good, there has to be a certain level of genuine, reciprocated maturity.

Ladies, no matter how hard you try, he's not going to be a swimsuit model from a cologne commercial that gets you. Guys, she's not going to be a sex-crazed cheerleader that prepares your every meal.

What we have in mind for the ideal partner is always going to be a smidgen of that fantasy, if at all. Fantasy is superficial desires you see in your partner that can never be true unless that partner is willingly or unknowingly superficial.

Luxuries too often are confused with priorities which is the moment someone becomes careless, superficial, and selfish. To enjoy luxuries, you have to fulfill your priorities, otherwise you will suffer the consequences that come from putting luxuries first and priorities last whether you're ignorant of those consequences or not.

Respect and romance cannot be faked. If they are, the way one siphons someone for his or her benefit will show. This is not a relationship and is a selfish, one-sided relationship at the very least. Women and men either misconstrue or confuse respect as romance, romance as respect, or some other definition of each by mistake.

Romance is knowing what you want and is a sentimental endeavor. Respect is knowing what you need and is a reasonable endeavor. Women are more capable of romance or asserting their feelings and understand respect as a result of romance. Men are more capable of respect or doing what is practical and understand romance as a result of respect.

Women think romance is respect or a need while men think respect is romance or a want. Both can teach the other what they're missing but it does not happen without acknowledging that respect and romance work in tandem, are separate, but strive for the same goal that is a relationship.

Respect does not mean appeasing the personality of your partner. Romance does not mean giving into wishes in spite of yourself. There is no romance without first introducing respect and one cannot expect to receive respect when romance is hurried and expected first.

To balance respect and romance, men and women must turn expectations into mutual as well as individual and reciprocated cyclical goals to ensure the idealized becomes the realized.

A relationship built on respect and romance is requited love. Once that's established, there's nothing you won't know about or can't expect from each other.

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21 Reasons You Should Date Someone Who Was A Camp Counselor

Spouse and parent material, all wrapped up in an animal shirt, Nike shorts, and Chacos.

1. They shop at Goodwill mostly... low maintenance you could say?

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2. They are pretty awesome at talking to parents... opening days have given good practice for them. Give them 15 minutes and they will become best friends with your parents.

3. Their best friends actually are long distance...so you can wait a while to meet their besties who will want to know everything about you and make sure your intentions are good.

4. They have learned how to look decently presentable without showering for a week... maybe two...you may or may not like this one.

5. They are always down for adventure... sure let's hike for eight miles uphill in the middle of the week!

6. They know what it is like to be woken up at 2 a.m. because someone wet their bed... mom training.

7. They also know how to give the "modest is hottest" talk to the teenage campers... and will help give you a classy future daughter.

8. Building fires is their hidden talent... if you ever get stuck on a deserted island with them they can help you.

9. Animal shirts are a common clothing item... they know how to have fun.

10. They throw killer dance parties... ones your grandma would approve of.

11. They are used to being publicly embarrassed for others (their campers') enjoyment... and usually can take a joke or prank well.

12. They also know how to prank you back... summer camp prepares you for awesome prank wars.

13. If you want to see her with no makeup on just look at her camp photos... natural beauty?

14. They actually love children... they chose to spend a whole summer loving other people's kids; imagine how awesome they will treat their own.

15. Chances are they are a really fun person and will bring out your inner child... yes, climb that random tree and paint your face because it is Wednesday.

16. Their "real job" will come later in life... they will end up being successful. Most employers love to hire former counselors, so it is not a waste of a summer.

17. They know how to hide their favorites in life really well... so if they choose to date you they are basically saying you are their favorite and that is a big deal to them.

18. They have learned how to eat unhealthy food every day for a whole summer and stay in shape... or try to at least.

19. They also are obviously not a diva when it comes to material needs...they went a whole summer without even air conditioning and never complained.

20. If they love you anything like they love their campers your needs will always be put first...they are some of the most selfless people you will ever meet.

21. They love God, living for Him, and have already made a difference in many children's lives... they are the real MVPS.

If you are still looking for a place to work this summer and love adventure, Jesus, and children, apply for Camp Crestridge for Girls; they still have many positions available. I'll be there so you should too!

If you are a boy apply for Camp Ridgecrest for Boys!

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