What do women want?

This question seems to be some mysterious phenomenon that has haunted men for centuries. A question that men cannot answer, but women struggle with, as well. A question, if answered, that could solve the problems that most singers sing about and most writers write about. So what do women really want?

Passion is defined as anypowerfulorcompellingemotionorfeeling,asloveorhate. It is not something that can be bought, voluntarily gifted, or pounded into someone's head. It is an affectivestateofconsciousness, or one could say a physical sensation not connected with sight, hearing, taste, or smell. It is something that is just there. It's passion, and it is what women are all guilty of wanting.

If you look on the internet, any social media site like Facebook, Twitter, or Pinterest, you are likely to see some cliche quote about love. The quotes that every girl feels describes her love life. "That can't eat, can't sleep, reach for the stars, over the fence, World Series kind of stuff." Every woman wants that type of love in her life, but if we want to be specific, that is not necessarily love, it is passion.

If you think back to a time you experienced intense passion, you will think of a time where your hands were shaking, your heart was racing, and your voice was probably quivering. The feeling was something you could not explain and honestly did not want to explain. You either felt intense affection towards this person or possibly even a love/hate attraction, but either way, you subconsciously longed for this feeling. This dramatic, cannot live without you, please do not leave me, I really want you, or I'm so mad I could kill you- passion.

Guilty? I know I am. Guilty of longing for this passion. Guilty of trying to find it, and guilty of trying to create it myself, but spoiler alert- you cannot. Through my relationships and other's relationships, I have observed certain times where this spiral of passion all started- the spiral you cannot get enough of, and the spiral that will suck you in and will not let you go. The spiral that will start and stop, but a spiral that makes you feel very much alive (like the women in those cheesy soap operas you grew up watching with your grandma).

How do these passion spirals start? Every woman is different, but I have noticed it most often when two people are experiencing new or difficult things together in life. A passion that comes from the common knowledge of what each person is experiencing. If it is something difficult, the passion builds as that person helps you overcome obstacles together. If the experience is new, each person grows more into who they are, growing as an individual but also growing together.

These experiences fuel your passion for that person. A powerful and compellingemotion that overtakes your very being. A feeling that you cannot see, hear, taste, or smell, but a feeling that you know that you want. Because passion makes you feel happy, loved, and needed .. and really that is all women want.

Guilty? I know you are.