Women Need To Remind Each Other How To Speak Up

Women Need To Remind Each Other How To Speak Up

This is women empowerment and it will not be met with silence.

I grew up with two older brothers and a bunch of male cousins, and I think it’s because of that that I kind of grew up with a 'take no shit' mentality. I played with the boys for years before I had any female cousins to play with. I remember always being hassled by my aunts and my mother that I shouldn’t be playing with the boys because one, I wasn’t a boy, and two, I was going to get hurt. I, of course, did not care as a kid and my only concern was playing, and getting pushed and thrown around a few times was a sacrifice I was willing to make.

Growing up, my brothers and my cousins taught me to never let a guy or really anyone get away with treating me badly and that’s stuck with me for years. It’s the reason why I sometimes hate seeing memes of how short girls have bad attitudes or are considered spit-fires because they're closer to the ground/hell. Well here’s some news for you, I actually won’t stand for your crap under any circumstances and it has nothing to do with my height. It’s ridiculous that standing up for myself has been given this negative connotation of being bitchy or someone with no manners or a bad attitude. Everyone has every right to speak up if they are being wronged. Women especially should not feel the need to sit back and have someone speak over them; we should make it second nature to speak up for ourselves and for those who can’t seem to do it for themselves.

With this in mind, a recent tweet by Gem Short on “Good Statements For A Woman To Practice” reads as follows:

The list struck me because of the awareness that has been ingrained in me to understand that such statements may not always be met with the response you wanted or expected.

There have been responses to her tweet on how these statements should be used by men in support of women and in standing up for them if found in such a situation. Although I agree with such responses, I find it even more important for women to stand up for other women as well. I think that conducting oneself in such a manner and training oneself to rise against in this way will bring forth a message to a society governed by an ideal woman that doesn’t say “no” or interrupt.

Standing up for yourself shouldn’t have to be something you’re afraid to do or feel out of the norm. It should feel normal to speak up for yourself when you know or feel that something isn’t right. Don’t let anyone make you feel uncomfortable and get away with doing it, that’s not right. We need to retrain our minds to register when we’re being talked down to or not heard and learn to speak up- mama didn’t raise a fool.

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Embrace Life's Weird

A (very) Short Rambling on Why I Love How Weird Life Is

Life is strange. I think we all figured that out by now. It becomes more evident as we keep moving on though. For some people, the oddity of life is overwhelming. For me, it's what makes life so exciting. I like that sometimes I'll start the day eating yogurt and watching reruns of Parks and Recreation, and by the end of it, I'll be in the middle of Marshalls searching for a golden triceratops to give to my cousin for Christmas. I like that my weekends can be anything from random walks in the wood to unexpected visits to art galleries I didn't know existed. It's the random nature of it all, the lack of structure that is ultimately there as much as we try to plan. It's the way life forces spontaneity and surprise when I fight against it that makes it so exciting.

I think we sometimes forget to appreciate it. The crazy parts we didn't expect or didn't see coming are the ones we regale in stories later on. Those are the parts that stick out in our memory and remind us that life's curveballs are what make life so wild and incredible and worth living. Sometimes the curveballs aren't what we wanted, but sometimes, the eccentrics of the unexpected make for a life that's not as boring as you think it is. I guess the point of my ramblings is this, sit back, and embrace the weirdness of life instead of fight against it. It's the weird parts that make it great, not the parts we saw coming.

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The Hard Part Of Moving On

There’s always gonna be a mountain you have to climb, but never give up because there’s a great view at the top.

They say when you love something you have to let it go and in reality that’s one of the hardest things to do when you love someone. How are you suppose to sit back and watch the person you loved so much start to love someone new? They always say if it’s meant to be it will happen and that things will work out in the end but it’s the waiting game that is always the worst. Whether you know you could do better or you know that it’s time to move on, the thought of what if stays in the back of your mind.

You will have your bad days where memories flood your mind, the good ones, and the bad ones. Some of the memories so real you feel like you are right back in that moment and you have to snap back to the reality that they are no longer in your life. You’ll have random days where something hits you and you feel like crying again even though it’s been months since things ended.

You’ll wonder if they even really loved you like they said they did, because while you are still trying to convince yourself that it’s time to move on while they have already started to. You would think knowing they are already moving on would make it easier but in reality it doesn’t it just brings more questions into your mind. Why wasn’t I good enough? Why couldn’t we work it out? Why is it so easy for them to move on? You will have your "why can’t I move on" moments. You may even try to go on a few dates with new people, but somehow every time you just don’t get that little spark you want, the one you had with the person you were head over heels for.

You find yourself comparing everyone to them, you find yourself wondering if things could eventually work out and if you should just wait it out because good things take time right? Not everything about a break up has to be bad though, although you will have some days that are rough, it’s also a good time to take care of yourself. Learn things that make you happy, go out to eat by yourself, go adventure somewhere or even go shopping alone. Learn to live your life for you and create your own happiness.

Once you are content with your life and doing things on your own let everything else fall into place on its own. In the end things might not turn out the way you wanted, things might not work out with that person but that just means something better is out there for you, you go through everything in life for a reason and that failed relationship was just a stepping stone on your way to a life you’ve always dreamed of.

Hold your head high and learn to love yourself and always remember something good will come out of the struggles that you face. There’s always gonna be a mountain you have to climb, but never give up because there’s a great view at the top.

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