Women Need To Remind Each Other How To Speak Up

Women Need To Remind Each Other How To Speak Up

This is women empowerment and it will not be met with silence.

I grew up with two older brothers and a bunch of male cousins, and I think it’s because of that that I kind of grew up with a 'take no shit' mentality. I played with the boys for years before I had any female cousins to play with. I remember always being hassled by my aunts and my mother that I shouldn’t be playing with the boys because one, I wasn’t a boy, and two, I was going to get hurt. I, of course, did not care as a kid and my only concern was playing, and getting pushed and thrown around a few times was a sacrifice I was willing to make.

Growing up, my brothers and my cousins taught me to never let a guy or really anyone get away with treating me badly and that’s stuck with me for years. It’s the reason why I sometimes hate seeing memes of how short girls have bad attitudes or are considered spit-fires because they're closer to the ground/hell. Well here’s some news for you, I actually won’t stand for your crap under any circumstances and it has nothing to do with my height. It’s ridiculous that standing up for myself has been given this negative connotation of being bitchy or someone with no manners or a bad attitude. Everyone has every right to speak up if they are being wronged. Women especially should not feel the need to sit back and have someone speak over them; we should make it second nature to speak up for ourselves and for those who can’t seem to do it for themselves.

With this in mind, a recent tweet by Gem Short on “Good Statements For A Woman To Practice” reads as follows:

The list struck me because of the awareness that has been ingrained in me to understand that such statements may not always be met with the response you wanted or expected.

There have been responses to her tweet on how these statements should be used by men in support of women and in standing up for them if found in such a situation. Although I agree with such responses, I find it even more important for women to stand up for other women as well. I think that conducting oneself in such a manner and training oneself to rise against in this way will bring forth a message to a society governed by an ideal woman that doesn’t say “no” or interrupt.

Standing up for yourself shouldn’t have to be something you’re afraid to do or feel out of the norm. It should feel normal to speak up for yourself when you know or feel that something isn’t right. Don’t let anyone make you feel uncomfortable and get away with doing it, that’s not right. We need to retrain our minds to register when we’re being talked down to or not heard and learn to speak up- mama didn’t raise a fool.

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44 Lyrics For When You Need An Instagram Caption

Your caption is just as important as the filter.

Choosing the caption for your Instagram can be almost as challenging as deciding on a filter. So, if you’re ready to post that Insta, but don’t know what to say, here are 44 lyrics for when you need an Instagram caption.

1. “Be young, be dope, be proud.” - Lana Del Rey, "American"

2. “I can’t really see another squad tryna cross us.” - Drake, "No Tellin’"

3. “Darling I’m a nightmare dressed like a daydream.” - Taylor Swift, "Blank Space"

4. “I’m throwin' shade like it’s sunny.” - Nicki Minaj, "Want Some More"

5. “I’m gonna live like tomorrow doesn't exist.” - Sia, "Chandelier"

6. “Find me where the wild things are.” - Alessia Cara, "Wild Things"

7. “If I was you, I'd wanna be me too.” - Meghan Trainor, "Me Too"

8. “Sweet like candy to my soul, sweet you rock and sweet you roll.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Crash Into Me"

9. “I swear this life is like the sweetest thing I’ve ever known.” - Drake, "Over"

10. “I hope you never lose your sense of wonder.” - Lee Ann Womack, "I Hope You Dance"

11. “But if you close your eyes, does it almost feel like nothing’s changed at all? - Bastille, "Pompeii"

12. “You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one.” - John Lennon, "Imagine"

13. “You can’t choose what stays and what fades away.” - Florence + The Machine, "No Light, No Light"

14. “She acts like summer and walks like rain.” - Train, "Drops of Jupiter

15. “She’s a good girl, loves her mama. Loves Jesus, and America too.” - Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers, "Free Fallin’"

16. “Lights will guide you home, and ignite your bones.” - Coldplay, "Fix You"

17. “Say you’ll remember me.” - Taylor Swift, "Wildest Dreams"

18. I’ve got thick skin and an elastic heart.” - Sia, "Elastic Heart"

19. “Give me the beat boys and free my soul.” - Uncle Kracker, "Drift Away"

20. “One of these days the clocks will stop, and time won’t mean a thing.” - Foo Fighters, "These Days"

21. “Sunshine mixed with a little hurricane.” - Brad Paisley, Perfect Storm

22. “You are the piece of me I wish I didn’t need.” Zedd feat. The Foxes, "Clarity"

23. “Her mind is Tiffany twisted, she’s got the Mercedes bends.” - The Eagles, "Hotel California"

24. “Life imitates art.” - Lana Del Rey, "Gods And Monsters"

25. “Nobody said it was easy, no one said it would be this hard.” - Coldplay, "The Scientist"

26. “You’re gonna keep my soul, it was yours to have long ago.” - State Radio, "Keepsake"

27. “Celebrate we will ‘cause life is short but sweet for certain.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Two Step"

28. “It’s always darkest before the dawn.” - Florence + The Machine, "Shake it Out"

29. “There are many things I’d like to say to you but I don’t know how.” - Oasis, "Wonderwall"

30. “You say you want a revolution, well you know we all wanna change the world.” - The Beatles, "Revolution"

31. “God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy.” Billy Currington, "People Are Crazy"

32. “Well my heart is gold, and my hands are cold.” - Halsey, "Gasoline"

33. “I don’t want to be heard, I want to be listened to.” - Twenty One Pilots, "Forest"

34. “Where you invest your love, you invest your life.” - Mumford and Sons, "Awake My Soul"

35. “I think I need a sunrise, I’m tired of the sunset.” - Augustana, "Boston"

36. “All of these lines across my face tell you the story of who I am.” - Brandi Carlile, "The Story"

37. ‘Ready or not, here I come. Where you at? The night is young.” - Bridgit Mendler, "Ready or Not"

38. “In the land of Gods and Monsters, I was an angel.” - Lana Del Rey, "Gods And Monsters"

39. “Turns out not where, but who you’re with that really matters.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Best Of What’s Around"

40. “Know yourself, know your worth.” - Drake, "0 to 100"

41. “I’m little but I’m coming for the crown.” - Lorde, "Still Sane"

42. “Didn’t they tell you I was a savage?” - Rihanna, "Needed Me"

43. “Hands in the air like we don’t care.” - Miley Cyrus, "We Can’t Stop"

44. “I’ma keep running because a winner don’t quit on themselves.” - Beyonce, "Freedom"

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Just Try To Look At That Situation In A New Perspective

Everything is temporary, so make the best with what you have.

Everyone goes through bad times.

Bad things happen to good people and bad things happen to bad people.

Bad things happen to everyone. That’s how life works. But as depressing as that sounds, don’t freak out, because there are always going to be good things too.

I had an amazing childhood. My parents gave my brother and I all the love and support any child could ever ask for. Now, along with love and support, we got some pretty badass toys, vacations, and some of the best memories. The majority of those best memories came from my childhood home. It was a beautiful house and even now when I think of it, I can only evoke the most fondest memories. However, every story has a downside.

It was spring of 2012, and this would mark the worst day of my life.

It was a Sunday morning, and my family had dinner plans with my relatives to congratulate my cousin on his graduation.

I, for some reason, thought it was a fantastic idea to watch Marley and Me a couple hours before while lying in bed with my dog.

Yes, I cried. I cried a lot. I don’t know about you, but when I cry my eyes tend to get a little swollen.

Ah, and I should also mention that I am extremely allergic to dog fur.

So, dog fur plus crying is a terrible combination, and to make matter worse, I fell asleep afterward.

I woke up about three hours later, and I felt a little off. I walked into the kitchen to grab some water and ask my mother when we were planning on leaving. Before I could say anything, my cousins, who were conversing in the kitchen, jumped back about 10 feet and looked at me mortified. My face had swollen up so much. It was a horrifying site. I was the epitome of ugly. Not only was the dinner in 2 hours, I had to spend the next 15 minutes listening to back-and-forth comments between my two cousins about how much I resembled a mixture of Frankenstein and the Elephant Man.

Fortunately, after about one hour and copious amounts of Benadryl, my face was presentable enough to leave the house.

It was a fantastic dinner and I had a great time with my family. We left the restaurant late and got home around 10:00 p.m. and this is when things just went downhill.

I got into bed and tried to push the day behind me.

I guess you could say that I took one last look at my childhood room, the way it was, the way it looked, even the way it smelled.

I turned my lights off and tried to fall asleep, but something was suffocating me. It suddenly became impossible to breathe and I was so scared. I got up and reached for my lamp, and I flicked the switch and it was still dark. Why was it still dark? I looked up, and I saw the problem. Black smoke was pouring through the vents. It was so black and heinous that it mimicked darkness itself. I ran out of my room only to find my brother in the corridor with the same look of confusion. We ran to the living room to find our parents fast asleep on the couch with the dogs after finishing a movie, untouched by the smoke. We shake them awake and began to look for the source. My father began to assure us that it was probably just a malfunction in the vents with the heater. He sent me to go open the room doors and to go get the cats out of the master bedroom to ventilate the house. I grabbed a towel to cover my mouth and ran down to the other side of the house through the black smoke to the master bedroom. As soon as I opened the door the cats shot out running as fast as they could as if they were running from a monster. And then almost instantly, an explosion of heat hit me. I couldn’t believe my eyes. My parent’s room was completely engulfed by flames. The heat from the smoke was unimaginable. I ran back to the living room and couldn’t even speak, I could only shout the words, “Fire! Fire!” We called 911, tried our best to put out the flames, but it was hopeless.

I lost a lot of things that day. I lost my belongings, my room, my pets, and my home.

Before the next school year started, I moved into a new house. I spent most of the summer grieving and doleful. My parents pushed me to keep my chin up and to think of everything as a part of my journey through life.

The house we moved into is the house I live in now, and even though nothing can compare to my old house, this one has definitely become a place that I can call home. This house has allowed me to experience new things and meet new people. I also discovered that I moved into my best friend’s neighborhood and unfortunately, the crazy girl and I have become inseparable ever since. I’m not kidding, she never leaves me alone.

Bad things happen, but good things will follow. Whatever seems bad and hopeless, give it time. It is only temporary.

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