Yes I Don't Shave, But It's Not Out Of Spite Or To Act Out Against The Man

Yes I Don't Shave, But It's Not Out Of Spite Or To Act Out Against The Man

I rarely shave because I understand the history of why women shave to begin with and it just doesn't seem worth it.


I get a lot of odd questions about identifying as a feminist, many of them surrounding things I choose not to do that are expected of women today. One of these things is shaving. I rarely shave my legs, often going 6 months at a time without. The only reason I shave my underarms more frequently is because it makes me feel uncomfortable or unclean. When people realize this, their first question is usually if I do it "out of spite" or if it's just another way that I'm trying to act out against men.

When I started actively deciding not to shave, it came out of simply forgetting or not having enough time. I found myself stressing about having the time to shave my legs and all of the work involved. As a result, I questioned why I was taking the time to shave, and I couldn't come up with a good answer. I really was only shaving because it seemed to be expected of me. I did it because everyone else did it, not because it mattered to me whether or not there was hair on my legs. Taking time and energy out of my day to do something because the rest of the world thought I should just didn't seem like a good enough reason.

After this realization, I started to wonder why women started shaving in the first place. It didn't take me much research to learn that women didn't really start shaving until the early 1900s when women's fashion began to change. As hems shortened and sleeves were removed, legs and underarms were now exposed. In order to make more money and generate a new market, companies that manufactured shaving products (companies run by men) decided to start advertising women's razors. They created a campaign that went right along with new advertisements for women's fashion. These wealthy corporations convinced the entire American female population that the new "normal" was shaving their body hair. If women's bodies were going to be exposed in this new way, they had to be hairless.

Even less surprising is that from the start ads for women's shaving products were very different from those for men. Magazines emphasized that shaving your legs and underarms was a feminine endeavor, rarely using words like "blades", "razors", or even "shave". Women who shaved were painted as polite and ideal. Not only did processes like this develop into the marketing of unrealistic beauty standards to women today, but it created what is today known as the "pink tax". This means that products marketed specifically toward women, such as women's shaving products, are more expensive than identical products marketed towards men. In fact, when compared women's razors cost around $1 per razor, while men's razors are around 75 cents.

It simply doesn't make sense to me to spend money on products marketed towards me so that I can complete a tax that men decided I should have to complete in order to make them more money. Hair removal for men is always approached as a choice, while for women it's considered a necessity and women who don't remove their body hair are deemed odd. It's not that I don't shave simply to be angry at the world, I don't do it because I don't want to and no one has given me a reason good enough to shave more regularly.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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I Am A Feminist And I Don't Hate Men

It's time to let the world know what Feminism truly is.


I know what you've heard about feminists. You've heard that we're all lesbians, that we hate men, and that we think women are the superior species. You believe that men should be fearing for their lives because "people like us" are making them feel less than worthy. You see us at protests waving our equality flags and think, "Wow, do they really have to do that?"

The answer?


And here's why:

For YEARS, women have been struggling to gain the same equal rights as men. We've been dealing with issues such as gender wage gaps, the right to vote, the right to have our own bank account (Yeah. Until 1974, we were required to have a man as a cosigner for our own bank accounts), and so many more.

Of course, times have changed, and women have definitely gained more rights, which is great! But the thing is, there's still inequality between women and men. That's just the truth.

Women are still getting harassed on the street every single day, and women are still being denied jobs because they "don't look" like what the company expects (which is usually, a man).

What does all of this have to do with feminists hating men, you may ask?

Well, for starters, these are the issues that we actually care about. Wait...what?

We, like feminists, care about equality. Hating men and wishing females were the only ones with rights? That's called inequality.

And we aren't here for it.

We stand for equal pay. We stand for women and men having rights over their own bodies. We stand for kindness towards anyone and everyone. We stand for equality.

Now that's what being a Feminist is all about.

So, you can complain about how much we hate men and wish they would burn in hell. But at the end of the day, we know what we stand for.

And hating men, isn't it.

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