Women Fear For Their Lives Everyday

Women Feel Threatened Every Day, Even If It's Not On A Big Scale

Whether you're aware of it or not, it's happening.


It doesn't have to be rape or sexual assault. It doesn't have to be about relevant issues, like how women should be in control of our own bodies. Women feel threatened every day. We change our behavior to be seen as less powerful so that we won't be called bitches. We have to deal with the fallout of hook-up culture, where women are called sluts and men are considered heroes. We have to think of everything when we go out:

"Is my outfit too revealing?"

"Has my drink been in my hand the entire time?"

"Is it safe to give this person my phone number?"

"Who can walk me to my car so that I won't be attacked in the parking lot?"

It doesn't end there. We have to consider whether it is more effective to use our keys as weapons or to buy pepper spray. We think about what would happen if we were raped or sexually assaulted; would anyone believe us if we were? Would our attacker face any consequences, or would we be shunned by our university, our workplace, our family and friends?

We have to make sure that we aren't being too flirty with our employers so that we can remain professional, but we need to be at least a little flirty so that we aren't seen as stiff and boring. We have to ignore the comments that are made by men in the room regarding another female or the female body. We have to pretend that we are not uncomfortable so that we won't be labeled as overly emotional. It's a lot of work, and it must be done simply because of our gender.

From the government to being forced to fit into a certain role, women have to conform to this every single day. We feel threatened every single day. We watch our backs in every scenario, even with those we trust. This is because it has been instilled in women that we are responsible for the actions of others. If we are raped, it is our fault. If we are labeled as a slut, a bitch, a prude, etc., it's on us.

It's time for this to end. It's going to be a long haul, and to be honest, I don't even know where to begin. But we can start by supporting our sisters and standing by our friends. We can start by speaking up and standing up for ourselves. I know that this won't solve every issue; it won't even solve the basic ones. But it is a start, and it's something I'm proud to do.

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How To Stop Being The Toxic Person That You Would Normally Cut Out Of Your Own Life

It's so much easier to pin a problem on someone else than it is to look deep within yourself and take responsibility for the things that you've done. But that's all part of growing up.


I'm sure you've heard it before...

"Cut someone out of your life if they negatively impact your mental health."

"You need to cut off friends, family, anyone that is bad for you and your future."

"You will be so much better off once _____ is gone from your life."

At this point in your life, you've probably cut off one or more people who you believed weren't good for you. You were prioritizing yourself, and that meant letting go of someone, regardless of the memories, bond, and love that you had for them. It was probably difficult, but somewhere down the line, you knew that you did what was best for you. And you stood by that decision.

But how many times have you been the problem?

How many times have you sat down and took the time to analyze a situation, only to come to the conclusion that YOU'RE the one that's messing up? And that if you changed x, y, and z, you could save or help your relationship with your friend, family member, or significant other.

Probably not very often.

It's so much easier to pin a problem on someone else than it is to look deep within yourself and take responsibility for the things that you've done. But that's all part of growing up. At some point, I hope you realize that you weren't so perfect either, after all. And when you do, this is what I want you to think about:

We all go through different phases of our lives, and it's okay to understand and acknowledge that this phase doesn't represent the best version of yourself. Character development isn't a strict upward slope, where you start off being a shitty, underdeveloped, immature person, but then progress into being an angel. There are going to be ups and downs. There are going to be moments where you're really disappointed in yourself, and can't believe that you let yourself slip up to that degree. We all have flaws, we all make mistakes. But also all have so much potential.

As long as you're willing to put in the effort to change (because everyone around you deserves that), then you're on the right track. And I'm proud of you for having the emotional maturity to self reflect and be better. That's the first step.

And the next step is going to involve putting everything you're saying into practice. I can't promise you that it's going to be easy. And I can't promise you that you're going to drastically permanently change overnight. If I did, I would be lying. But what I can promise you is that everything you're going to do will be worth it in the long run. I hope that's enough of a reason to dig deep for a new you.

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Everything You Need To Know About The Sudan Crisis- And What You Can Do To Help

Now is not the time to remain silent.


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Turmoil is spreading in Sudan as civilians are being massacred left and right, but few are aware of the details leading up to and regarding the calamity. Here is everything you need to know about the crisis in Sudan.

Civilians began to protest against President Omar al-Bashir as his presidency was one of violence and suffering. Under his rule, thousands of villagers were murdered by the government militia in 2003, and millions of Sudanese people were displaced from their homes. While the president was charged with genocide and war crimes, the charges were dropped when the government failed to get support from the UN. Bashir was again arrested in April 2019, after three decades of rule and several large protests.

After his rule came to an end, the people demanded a democracy, and smaller, peaceful protests eventually merged into a mass civil disobedience. Sudanese authorities banned social media and cut internet and mobile data in the capital of Sudan. Recently, soldiers have begun to open fire on crowds of protestors, rape women and men, and beat the protestors that remained on the streets. So far, it is estimated that over 100 people have been killed, 70 raped, and 700 injured. Among these numbers are hundreds of young children.

These people have no access to the outside world, or basic necessities like food and water. Instead of remaining silent and waiting for our country to step in, do your part and 1. Share this article informing others of the crisis 2. Sign this petition demanding the UN investigate this atrocity 3. Donate something to this GoFundMe raising money for Sudanese medical aid. Every share, signature and donation can and will make a difference.

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