Marriage

To The Twenty-Something Woman Who Feels Like Everyone Is Getting Engaged, Except Her

"Choose to love everyone with the same fervor as a bride loves her groom."

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If you're that young single woman who sees an engagement post on her Facebook feed at least once a week, congratulations! You're in a pretty crappy place in life. It's the holiday season, so that makes things doubly crappy. Some might call that pessimistic, but I think it's just the truth.

Your girlfriend goes out and finds the perfect wedding dress, and you're sitting in your 8AM class wearing the same sweater for the third day in a row. Your childhood bestie and her fiancee always talk about how in love they are, and you can't even get your cat to snuggle with you. That girl you do everything with has a huge rock on her perfectly manicured nails, and your hands look like little stumps. It's a constant comparison of you and every engaged person you know. It seems like it can't be helped. You're surrounded by wedding plans and photos and brunches and, worst of all, love. The very last thing you want to do is think about love. Being single when all your friends are engaged sucks. I'm not here to tell you it doesn't. If I tell you that "someday your prince will come", then I'm playing God, because I don't know what will happen to you, or me, or anyone else.

But, as much as this season of life sucks, you can still gain something invaluable from it.

I believe that God created marriage as a symbol of His unconditional, redeeming love for us. When two people enter into the covenant of marriage, they promise to put the other person's needs before their own and to be devoted to them in spite of their shortcomings. Now, think about your engaged friends and their husbands-to-be. As much as you love them, they all have shortcomings. She talks a little too loudly and he doesn't speak up when he should. He's super messy and she's obsessively clean. They both forget to apologize, but when they do, it's never with much eloquence.

All these faults might seem to be deal-breakers for a relationship, but, as cheesy as it sounds, love can conquer any sin or shortcoming in our lives.

Love does two things: It takes a broken person and reconciles them to God and it takes two broken people and reconciles them to each other. The good news is, you don't have to be in a relationship, engaged or married to experience this amazing, restorative love. It can be found in friendships, mentorships and families. This supernatural love is so powerful that it can even be found in strangers. That's right, you don't even have to know someone to love them wholly if you have God's love in your heart. That is a power that no one can take from you. You have to choose to harness love and use it in your everyday day life; no one can make you. But, I promise that if you choose love, you'll never regret it. You will find fulfillment in your singleness, meaningful relationships, and a newfound perspective on all your engaged friends.

Choose to love everyone with the same fervor as a bride loves her groom. It's what we were put on this Earth to do.

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13 Movies Every Couple Needs To Watch Before They Get Married

Let's be honest, Rachel McAdams is in all the best love stories.

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These 13 movies are the foundation of any long-lasting relationship, and I'm not joking. Each movie will show you something new about your partner, and make you ask each other the hard questions. How many kids do you want and how are you going to raise them? What would happen if you got into a horrible accident? Some are less serious though, like what if you could time travel?

I promise that not every one of these movies is a Nicholas Sparks classic, and I also promise that not every movie has Rachel McAdams in it!

1. "The Time Traveler's Wife"

This movie is both heartbreaking and amazing.

2. "About Time"

Let's be honest, Rachel McAdams is in all the best love stories. It's on Netflix right now, so grab some snacks and turn it on!

3. "Like Crazy"

This infamous Tumblr gif came from "Like Crazy." It's about a couple who goes long distance and build their life together. I used to cry every time I watched it, and I'm no crier! It also has the (now famous) Felicity Jones in it.

4. "The Notebook"

Every girl wants this kind of love.

5. "The Last Song"

Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth are literally married now so if that isn't good luck, I don't know what is.

6. "Safe Haven"

You guessed it! This is another Nicholas Sparks classic. This movie has a dark twist as well, which men will love.

7. "Inside Out"

You may be thinking that this one is a bit weird. Well, this movie will help both you and your partner understand each other's emotions better.

8. "The Choice"

This movie is great because the female lead is feisty and extremely intelligent, which usually doesn't happen in love stories. How do you keep the love alive with a woman who is hard to get, and even harder to keep entertained?

9. "The Longest Ride"

Originally I could not stand the main female lead (Britt Robertson) but now she is in one of my favorite shows (For The People), so I have no choice. This movie had me on the end of my seat, and as a rom-com it is a must.

10. "The Age Of Adaline"

I began loving the name 'Adaline' thanks to this movie. This unlikely love story and self love journey really gets me.

11. "The Vow"

Imagine falling in love with someone and building a life, but an accident forces you to start all over?

12. "Titanic"

If they don't have any sort of reaction to this movie, they are probably not the one for you.

13. "Yours, Mine, & Ours"

Yours, Mine, & Ours is a true classic. Are you Helen or Frank Beardsley? You should figure that out before you tie the knot!

You're welcome!

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41 Thank-Yous To My Boyfriend Who Stood By My Side For Three Semesters And Graduation

Life will be scary and difficult sometimes, but as long as you're there to hold my hand, I know that I will always be OK.

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These last several semesters at college, I've learned so much and I've changed so much, all because of one person. A person that came at a time when things were going downhill, and completely flipped my life around. I will never forget how terrible I felt before I met you, and how much better I am with you by my side. Truly, I don't know where I would be without you. And that's why it will always be impossible to thank you enough for everything that you have done for me.

But you do deserve to know how much of an impact you have on me.

1. Thank you for being my shoulder to cry on when I was struggling to get through this last semester.

2. Thank you for always listening to me rant about problems I was having with my friends.

3. Thank you for never getting tired of me talking about the same things over and over again.

4. Thank you for never acting like my past trauma was baggage or a burden.

5. Thank you for trying your best to understand and to be considerate of my anxiety.

6. Thank you for being patient with me when I take so long to process everything and sort out my emotions.

7. Thank you for dealing with my mood swings and intense emotions.

8. Thank you for never judging me over things I get embarrassed about.

9. Thank you for sharing your opinions with me, even when I didn't want to hear them, but I needed to hear them.

10. Thank you for opening my eyes to toxic behavior that I was blind to.

11. Thank you for always looking out for my health and well-being, and my future.

12. Thank you for helping me grow up and mature.

13. Thank you for always wanting to talk things out.

14. Thank you for making me feel important.

15. Thank you for giving me a reason to live.

16. Thank you for showing me what true love is.

17. Thank you for being my best friend and partner in life.

18. Thank you for breaking my walls down but never breaking a promise.

19. Thank you for keeping my heart safe.

20. Thank you for giving me endless reassurance.

21. Thank you for never making me worry about the fate of our relationship.

22. Thank you for always putting me first.

23. Thank you for being loyal and committed to me.

24. Thank you for all of the memories and adventures.

25. Thank you for never getting annoyed about taking photos.

26. Thank you for the best summer of my life.

27. Thank you for making college a much better experience for me.

28. Thank you for always putting a smile on my face.

29. Thank you for always catering to me and trying to make me happy.

30. Thank you for all the little favors you do for me and everything else you might think goes unnoticed (but trust me, I notice and I appreciate it so much).

31. Thank you for supporting everything that I'm passionate about.

32. Thank you for always making an effort to change.

33. Thank you for always forgiving me when I make (loads of) mistakes.

34. Thank you for being a good influence on me.

35. Thank you for being my role model and inspiring me to be more like you.

36. Thank you for the amount of time, effort, and love that you've put into our relationship.

37. Thank you for shaping my future.

38. Thank you for making me so hopeful and excited about everything that we are going to do throughout our life together.

39. Thank you for thinking that I'm worth it.

40. Thank you for wanting to get married, have kids, and spend your life with me.

41. Thank you for making my dreams come true.

Now that we've graduated, for the first time, we're dealing with the fact that we don't have a set path laid out for us. Real life is more than what we're used to. We might struggle to find jobs. Heck, we might find jobs but hate them. It might take forever to save up money. Things might not go according to how we planned them in our heads. We're going to have to juggle a bunch of different elements all at once. Life will be scary and difficult sometimes, but as long as you're there to hold my hand, I know that I will always be OK.

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