A dream for many people is to have a child one day, right? To get married, buy a house with a white picket fence and have a child or two. I will admit that I do share that dream. Maybe I won't have 10 children like my father's parents did, but I do plan to have two kids. Part of that plan is to adopt at least one of those children. There are a couple of reasons why I want to adopt, and not give birth to my own.
The first reason why I want to adopt a child is because there are so many children out there that need homes. Maybe their parents died. Maybe their family was too poor to take care of them and wanted them to have a better life. Maybe their parents were abusive and they got taken away by child services. Whatever the reason, I want to make sure that those children have a good and loving home and family.
Another reason for adopting would be that children who live in foster homes and orphanages don't generally have stable lives. They move from house to house and from school to school, never really getting close with any one. I want to make sure that at least one or two children have stable lives, and can make friends and have a relationship with me and my future husband. Studies have also shown that children who live in stable homes do better in school than those who move around.
A problem that could occur from adopting a child though is the fact that they may end up being very insecure about where they come from and why they were adopted; this doesn't happen with all children who are adopted, as some are secure in their new homes. Even though they know their adoptive parents love them, they sit there wondering why their original parents gave them up. I've seen that in one of my friends who is adopted. She gets very sensitive about adoption, so if it's brought up in a movie or any other kind of media, she won't read about or watch it. On the opposite end of the spectrum, a family friend of ours adopted two kids and both of the children aren't as sensitive to adoption as my friend is.
I honestly don't know where I want to adopt from yet, but I know that I will be adopting. I know some people adopt children because of the money that they get from the government. I'm not going to do it for the money. I want to do it to genuinely help a child out. Many children live in poverty because of the orphanages. I hope that one day, my adopted child is secure with me and my future husband, whoever he may be. I also hope that my future adopted child will be secure with their sibling, whether the sibling is also adopted or my own child.
