Some called us crazy, some thought we were dumb, and others completely understood the decision my husband and I made when we decided to get married in the summer between our sophomore and junior years of college. Now having finished our first semester as newlyweds, I can safely say that I have learned a few things about the joys and struggles of being married during college.
1. Shared Space
Having had the opportunities to have my own room growing up as well as sharing one once I arrived at college, I can safely say that neither of these experiences completely prepared me for what it would be like to share a living space with a permanent roommate, my husband. The line "What's mine is yours" becomes a reality very quickly. Though not always a negative thing, it is definitely an adjustment. We had to decide who does what chores, who cooks on which nights, and learn how to truly sync two schedules and personal habits together. If I am honest, this was not my smoothest transition.
2. Different Stage of Life
Being so young and still in college, very few of our friends are married, thus making us often feel like the odd couple in the room. It also left us without the much desired and needed support that married couples give each other. Some situations were awkward at first because friends did not not understand that just because we're now married, things did not change in their individual friendships. However, with time, the awkwardness goes away.
3. 24/7 Best Friend
One of the perks of being married in college is always having my best friend. Someone that always has my back, a helpful study buddy and encourager, and someone that constantly loves me no matter what mood I am currently displaying. The security of knowing this friend is not temporary is nice in an environment when friends are more for this season of life. Dates and traditions begin to be formed differently when you are married as well. Getting Taco Bell and going back to our apartment is now one of my favorite dates. Things do not have to be lavish in order to make memories. It is not about what we do, but just getting to spend simple time together when schedules are often crazy.
4. Growing Up Together
College is considered a transition time for all young people. This is the time when children become adults that have the capability to function in the "real world"—as well as a time for self discovery and figuring out who you want to be as a person. Getting married this young has given me the ability to discover myself deeper because I am able to better see how my actions immediately affect another person. Additionally, I have been able to see myself through the most raw and honest view of another person, my husband.
While this list just scratches the surface of young marriage, I hope it gives a better insight. Challenging but oh so rewarding. Even though these first few months have not been anywhere close to easy, I would not change anything. Marriage has been the greatest adventure, and I am so excited that it has already begun.
