Ladies welcome to your 20s. A glorious time full of confusing relationships and more attractive boys who will never notice you than you can shake a stick at. Truth is, the search for a good man is a difficult one—not because you guys out there aren't great, y'all just need a little push in the right direction sometimes. But the good news is you're not the only one who doesn't have it figured out. Actually, no one does.
I know in sixth grade it's cute to have crushes and whisper about them to your friends in the hallway and secretly put them in your top friends on MySpace (not cute by the way). But for whatever reason, that's less acceptable as an adult. As an adult, you're not allowed to swoon every time he looks at you or "accidentally" text him something that was "supposed to go to someone else." No, as an adult you're supposed to meet up with coworkers for drinks and have brunch with old friends and be cool and not have relatively irrational feelings for a super cute boy that might not know you exist. So I'm going to argue with the way of the world for a minute and give you three reasons your crush is totally okay.
It's normal.
You are one lyin' son-of-a-gun if you try to tell me you've never had some sort of crush. I think a lot of times people feel uncomfortable having intense feelings for someone, whether they're acted upon or not. As individuals, we have such a strong fear of being rejected that the idea of those feelings not being reciprocated is a turn-off in itself. But by the same token, you're not the only one. Like I said before, most of us have had some sort of crush in our lives and everything ends up okay.
Hey, guess what? There are 7 billion people in this world. Do you actually think anyone cares that you're really into a guy because he's cute and good at what he does and is terrifyingly charming and has blue eyes as deep as the ocean that you get lost in every time you happen to make eye-contact (just me?)? No, no one is judging you for being *~tOtaLlY~* into him. Crush on.
Plus, if a tree falls in the woods and no one's there to hear it, did you even have a crush on him? If that boy is yours you need to let everybody know. But maybe not him, just yet.
It's harmless.
Seriously. Seriously. What's the actual big deal? Like I said before, no one is judging you. You have the freedom to decide if this crush is pursuable (holy scary) or not. Maybe he looks nice on the outside and you speak real words to him and realize he's a total dweeb and you'll be perfectly content obsessing over his adorable Instagrams for the rest of your lives. Or maybe you find out he's one of those people that you have nothing in common with but you just really love how put together he is, no matter if you spend the rest of your lives together in a plantation home with six golden retrievers and a porch swing or not. Not all crushes have to be permanent you know.
Or maybe the stars align and you're your crush's crush and you guys are just out here crushin' on each other! You never know.
A girl can dream.
It's exhilarating.
One thing that bothers me the most about people with crushes is how embarrassed we are to admit it (as if I haven't already said it a million and one times). Crushes are so fun. You can't tell me that guy at the corner desk in the office isn't the reason you woke up 30 minutes early to wash your hair and contour. Or that you didn't go to your chem lab this morning solely to be partnered up with him and make science together. Yeah, that's what I thought.
Every day when you wake up there's a chance he could see you or talk to you or come in contact in any way shape or form. And 98 percent of the fun of crushes is the mystery behind it. You have to be - no - you want to be on your game at all times, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. If thinking about him without being in the same room gives you butterflies then so what? Just because you're an "adult" doesn't mean you aren't allowed to to have a crazy manic crush. Just try to refrain from sneaking him back into your top friends on MySpace.
