Everyone feels bad about things sometimes, but I'm writing to tell you that you don't have to feel bad about somethings you feel bad about or regret. As someone who feels bad whenever I can't cater to someone else i know that hearing this helps you feel better.
Loving someone
Whether it was a crappy relationship or just one that ended badly we should never regret loving someone. At one point in our life that person was exactly what we needed. They also taught you a lesson, whether it was to love yourself more, showed you what you deserve, or showed you not to take life so seriously. Chances are those past relationships will help you to find the right one someday
Caring
The newest trend seems to be not caring. Whether it's about grades, relationships, friendships, hardships, or many other things everyone seems to be putting on a brave face and pretending not to care. I think this is crazy. You should not have to feel bad for caring about something.
Saying how you feel
I feel as if this and caring seem to go hand in hand. People also aren't expressing how you feel. If a friend gets mad at you for expressing your feelings to them then they probably aren't a real friend.
Staying in while your friends go out
They're going to call you "grandma" and probably get mad, but it definitely isn't their right. You deserve the right to stay in and binge watch Netflix all night after a hard week.
Saying no
I am definitely a person who will say yes to anyone who asks me a favor because I feel bad, but no one should have to feel bad saying no when they're too busy, too tired, or just don't want to do something.
Letting go of previous friendships and relationships
This is so hard, believe me I know, but in the end it is so refreshing. If a friend or significant other isn't bettering you, lifting you up, cheering you up, or even paying attention to you then what's the point. People grow and change and that's okay. Friendships and relationships end everyday and that's okay too. You shouldn't feel bad for cutting someone out of your life that you don't think deserves to be there anymore.
Eating unhealthy (sometimes)
We all love cake and if you tell me you don't I don't believe you, because you must be lying. You shouldn't have to feel bad eating one or two sweets every once in a while.
Although feeling bad is a natural thing, you shouldn't feel bad about everything listed above, because some of them help heal you, some of them strengthen you, and some make you the person you are today. So don't waste time regretting anything, everything happens for a reason.
