You have just finished that super long paper for class and it’s about three in the morning. You yawn and check your phone. You have two missed calls from him. You hesitate. You know why he’s calling. You lie and tell your friends you don’t, but deep down, you know why he’s calling. Usually, the fact that he’s cute and you have a long complicated history and you want to talk to him outweighs all the reasons why you should not call him back. But, tonight you hesitate just a little bit longer when you think about that call back button. These are ten reasons why you should not call him back quite so fast.
1. You're giving him what he wants, will not get you what you want.
You think it will if you just do everything he says, that he will like you and talk to you when it isn’t 3 AM. But that isn’t true, in reality, men like women who are hard to get. And he isn’t worth playing chase with.
2. You have better things to do.
People! It is 3 AM! Go to bed! Stop paying attention to someone who won’t pay attention to what you need. What you need is sleep.
3. If he really wanted you, he would not call you at three in the morning.
He just wouldn’t. People do what they want to do, he didn’t call you in the daytime because he didn’t want to. There is no excuse.
4. “But what if it’s important?”
It is never important and that is a crappy excuse.
5. If your history really mattered to him as much as it does to you, he wouldn’t be calling you, he’d be seeing you.
6. There are other fish in the sea, more specifically, 8 billion more.
You will not grow up and die alone with your cat if you do not pick up his call. That is an irrational fear, do not fall for it.
7. Being the person he depends on his cool, but it only lasts until you expect to be able to depend on him and he leaves you broken hearted.
8. He hurt you.
That is the whole reason your history is history and not present.
9. He will hurt you again, more specifically at four in the morning when you get off the phone.
You don’t need him.
10. You are worth more than a 3 AM phone call.
You just are. The second you start believing that is the second you will stop getting them.
We’ve all picked up our fair share of phone calls we shouldn’t. These are the reasons that go through my head before I choose not to call back. Every day you keep going is another day you are stronger.
