We’ve all had hard times in life when you want to lash out on someone for something cruel they did or said to you. What do you do when hurtful things are said? Do you off on them or do you let it go? Most people will call them out by saying hurtful things back in a sense of revenge because that is a normal human instinct to say hurtful things back. Next time something like that happens to you, don’t say anything. Silences is the revenge. Be the bigger person and ignore the comments and hurtful things and fuel it into motivation instead. Being the bigger person shows them maturity and that what they did doesn’t bother you, even though it might. Once they realize that the cruel things they hoped to hurt you with didn’t hurt you, they will back off and could even feel a sense of embarrassment that their hopes of hurting you were unsuccessful. This will show them that you are confident and that they were in the wrong for what they did. It will make them look immature and that they aren’t capable of knowing how to deal with certain situations life can give them. If you feel as if you want to say everything that is on your mind to put someone ‘in place”, put your phone down, shut your computer, and take a step back. Take a deep breath in and let it out slowly to calm down racing thoughts you might be having.
Delete what makes you want to be the lash out so it is clear from your sight and you aren’t tempted to say things you might regret. Not responding to what was the cause of your rage will make you look good and is a good thing to learn how to do for what the future might bring you. Acting childish back won’t help the situation get any better. If you feel the need to respond, be respectful and own up to your mistakes no matter how hard it might be to be nice. They won’t see it coming and you will still end up being the bigger person. Remove them from your life if they have a negative impact on you. Ignore them, unfollow them, or even block them, whatever it takes for you not to get those racing thoughts of anger will protect you against losing your sense of being the bigger person.
Don’t get lost in thoughts, take a step back to think what the best choice in that kind of situation is. We are young now but when we are adults and have to act like it, we can look back and realize how much we learned from being the bigger person in situations where you could have acted immature just to get your revenge back on someone. Even though they might have hurt you from what they said, being the bigger person means you can control yourself and makes you the winner in the long run, not them.
