The catchphrase of my childhood was, “Emily, stop being so bossy.” I have been told to stop being so bossy by a multitude of people throughout my life. Teachers, coworker, colleagues, parents, and friends have all told me to stop being so bossy or described me as bossy. AND I’M PROUD OF IT.
For the longest time whenever someone commented on my bossy nature I instantly felt ashamed. My leadership and confidence immediately felt questioned by the tone of one word thrown at me. Women and little girls are constantly called bossy where it less common for men to be described the same way. Being called bossy, especially by insecure and dominating male figures, is simply a ruse to make people, particularly women, question their place. Well to everyone who has been called bossy for their leadership, confidence, and ability to take action; your place is to be bossy.
Countless women in the public eye have commented on their leadership, intelligence, and confidence using gender-specific terms such as bossy. The problem goes beyond the celebrities of today and into the psychology of young minds. Young girls who are taught to feel shame and embarrassment when leading and directing others will be less likely to want to lead.
How do we stop it?
Stop being offended.
You’re probably thinking that, “It’s not that easy,” as the nerve-wracking feeling of uncomfortableness settles over you. And you’re right, it’s not that easy to stop being offended by hundreds of years of subtle comments meant to degrade us. BUT WE SHOULD TRY.
BE BOSSY AND PROUD.
Everyday work to be confident in yourself as a leader throughout the day. Whether that be leading your children through the day or shooting for a new position at work; be confident in your abilities to lead effectively. Turn the negative idea of being bossy into people recognizing your ability to take initiative and that you are comfortable being in charge.
It’s time to take being bossy as a compliment and to teach our daughters the same.
