I'm going to start this off with a warning: this is not an article bashing relationships, but rather that the idea of not being in one is not necessarily a bad thing. I'm sure your relationship is wonderful, but so is my life being single. And here's why!
I’ve been in a relationship a majority of my life, almost all of my life, ever since my first boyfriend in the seventh grade. I had breakups and periods of being single, but basically nothing more than a couple of months (I know, very strange). Coming out of my most recent relationship, I realized how little time I had been single during my life. Now, when I talk about being single, that does not include post breakup depression periods or when you’re “talking” to someone. I’m talking hardcore, no attachments, on your own, don’t need no man, single.
Everyone gives being single a negative connotation because this status is usually attached to feeling lonely, unwanted and being generally worse off than being in a relationship. However, once you’re over your breakup and take time for yourself, you realize how great being single is. It is more than “not being in a relationship,” it’s a world full of possibilities.
You can literally do whatever YOU want (I mean, don’t do anything illegal, but you know what I mean). There is no one to check schedules or plans with, no one to keep in mind when making decisions, you go by what you want to do. You also have unlimited “me” time. Again, I feel like most people think this is a bad thing. It’s not! Go take a walk, take a bath, have a glass of wine (or the bottle), read a book, watch television, WHO CARES? Definitely not your nonexistent boyfriend who probably would be bitching the whole time. You’re on your own and this should be a good thing.
In addition to really helping your mental state by spending time with yourself and more importantly learning to love and appreciate yourself, here is a small list I compiled of more great things about being single:
- You don’t have to buy watches, wallets or whatever other boyfriend gifts we purchase every anniversary, birthday and Christmas.
- Ditto with the Instagrams. EVERY SINGLE HOLIDAY. How many different ways can we caption a picture of our boyfriends and us?
- No more drunk fights. No matter how great your relationship is, we all know we fight when we’re drunk. But now, you can party free of tears and screaming. HOORAH!
Now, go spend that watch money on something for yourself.
