Holding onto something that is no longer yours is not healthy. If you keep reminding yourself of what you felt instead of what you are feeling it anchors you down into the past. Holding on is setting you up for failure while you are trying to move on, it holds you back. You may think you miss them and you can’t live without them, but have you tried? Have you really tried to move on without the one thing you thought you needed the most?

From personal experience, I know what it is like to not want to let go. It feels like if you let go, everything you had is going to be sucked into a black hole and you can’t get it back. That is exactly what you need, you can’t get it back and you are left holding onto an invisible hand that is no longer grasping back. When someone once made you feel so special, you still want them to make you feel that way. You make so many memories with that one person so if you let go you feel like you have nothing left. If that someone is not going to fight for you anymore and does not make you feel the way you deserve, let go. You will find someone who will fight for you and who won’t give up. Don’t try to be with the person who wouldn’t do anything for you because in the end you are only cheating yourself out of happiness.

It is never the easiest thing. You may think you can go back and fix everything, but sometimes it doesn’t work that way. The damage is done and you can’t get rid of the things you both did wrong. Never settle for someone who makes you feel less than you are. Sometimes you think you are meant to be with someone, but if you have to keep fighting for it maybe you were not meant to be with that person forever. It was not a mistake meeting that person, so don’t be bitter about it. Maybe they have changed you for the better and made you a stronger person out of it.

What’s next after you let go? You move on, make yourself a better person so that you can see that you deserve better and the person you walked away from sees it too. You don’t need someone to make you feel complete, and if you do then maybe you are not ready for a relationship and that is okay. One day, you will look back and realize that you did not deserve what you got. Don’t keep the door open for the person who slammed it when they left, stand up for yourself no matter how vulnerable someone can make you feel. Let go and give yourself the chance to find out who you are and how to be happy on your own. It is a good feeling knowing you don’t need to rely on someone for your happiness. You only need the people in your life who need you.