You've heard it before. "We're talking." It means two people have basically called dibs on each other. You talk and hang out every day like you're dating, but you aren't "officially dating" so technically you're still single. You aren't exclusive, but you aren't allowed to be with anyone else. Our culture has come up with this new trend that will literally ruin your life. "I don't like titles," or "I just wanna see how it goes before we actually date," are just a couple things you will hear during this stage. If you're lucky enough, that person will finally put their big boy/big girl pants on and lock it down. However, most of us aren't so lucky.
There is absolutely no time limit to this talking stage. It could last anywhere from two weeks to an entire year. You don't know when it begins, and if it ends it's one of the worst feelings in the world. How do you get over someone you never even dated? You'll ask yourself this a million times. You'll think about all of the time you wasted thinking you two could actually be something. You'll start to wonder if the other person ever meant a word they said. All of the "what ifs" will burn in the back of your head and there's no telling when you are going to have an unnecessary breakdown.
Honestly, what is the point of "talking?" The only real difference between "talking" and "dating" is that the other person can out-of-nowhere get up and decide to leave one day and they expect you to be fine.
You will also have that problem when you're in the talking stage and your family asks, "So are you dating anyone these days?" What are you going to tell them? I'm sure as hell not going to tell them I'm talking to someone. I don't want to tell them I'm not with anyone, either. You'll get, "Do you have a boyfriend?" when a guy is trying to hit on you. You want to say yes, but can you? Is that weird?
This. Is. So. Stupid.
I'm not going to sit here and tell you to change the way our generation views dating, because it won't. I'm just here to tell you that if you're that person that's "not wanting a relationship right now," but you're definitely 100% giving that other person every reason to believe that you do, please stop.
What is actually happening here is that you are playing with our hearts. Sometimes I wonder if guys know how much time girls spend thinking about the smallest things that guys haven't given two seconds of thought about.
What do you think he meant when he said this? He put a period at the end of his text. Does that mean I'm annoying him? Am I being clingy? Should I text him now or is it too early? I should probably wait until at least 3:00.
I have way more important things to worry about than wondering if you're going to text me today or not. I know my worth and if you don't make an effort to show me that, I'm moving on. It may suck in the process, but I'll be damned if I let a guy waste precious time of my life that I could be spending focusing on how to become the next Elle Woods.
What, like it's hard?
