Back in August of 2015, MTV's "Are You The One?" returned for its third installment, where it also filmed again in Hawaii, like the first season was, but instead of Honolulu, season 3 was filmed in Kona. Two of the 10 gentlemen who were cast had long hair, and their names were Chuck and Zak. Leading into the season, there was a teaser about describing the ideal perfect match, and three of the girls mentioned that their perfect match would have a man-bun. One of the girls who said this was named Hannah, and it's perfect since her last name is "Rath-bun."
Chuck's initial attraction was to Hannah and it was due to Chuck matching Hannah's ideal type. He wore a man-bun throughout the season, and I thought the way Chuck did it seemed pretty cool so I gave it a go.
I like the long-hair style; there's more you can do with long hair than short hair.
With long hair, you could tie it up in a multitude of ways, whether it's a low, middle, or high-hanging pony tail, braids, mini-pony tail (where you don't grab all the hair), and of course, a bun. (the male variety of a bun is referred to as a man-bun)
I enjoy being able to tie my hair up
Especially if I can get most or all of it in one clump. I feel more energized with it tied up since I feel like I have a bounce in my step, or feel extra confident. There are so many people (guys) who tie their hair up when it's long. It's not your business to judge me for being a long-haired man who does it.
A man-bun doesn't make me less of a man.
May it make me look less like a man? It's possible, sure, but it doesn't completely mean I'm not a man. If I feel uncomfortable wearing it, I'll take it out and leave my hair down. If I feel good wearing it (the man-bun), then I'll wear it. I understand when it's okay or not okay to wear it, as well as when it's preferred or not-preferred. I'll keep it in as long as I want to or am able to. If the time doesn't call for it, then I'll keep my hair down.
I'm developing and getting used to a routine when I wear a man-bun.
If I were to tie my hair up every day, I'd be building consistency in how I do my hair. There's never anything wrong with consistency. It's not your business, to judge a man based on his cover.
I'm not focused on seeking approval through having a man-bun anyway.
The man-bun is not intended as a way to attract women or girls, and it's not for any other attention either, for that matter. I'm comfortable in my own skin.
I shouldn't care about what you think, or others think, of my man-bun.
Letting your feelings be the supreme dictator of what I do about my man-bun means that I'm insecure about myself. Of course you can be opinionated and feel a certain way, but that's not the vibe I want to display.
You shouldn't care much about what I think either, whether it's about what I think that you think (about me), or if it's what I think of you. Writing 500+ words in an article isn't designed to manipulate your opinion on the man-bun, but my intention is to state the way I feel about it.
During the times I wear a man-bun, I'm sending a message that I feel a certain way ("that I'm liking the man-bun"), and I'm sending the message to mind your own business. I wear a man-bun because I enjoy what can be done with long hair, and I enjoy the way I feel when I wear one.
