Why We Shouldn't Support A "Sexy Halloween"

Why We Shouldn't Support A "Sexy Halloween"

Don't let society tell you what you ought to look like on a kid's holiday.

Every October, BuzzFeed, and Cosmopolitan bombard me with articles that read "20 DIY Halloween Costumes" and "Sexy Halloween Costumes," and it has led me to think why Halloween has turned into an opportunity to sexualize and objectify women.

Of course, this article should not be misconstrued as a rant utilizing men or the patriarchy as a scapegoat, since the "sexy Halloween" phenomenon exists because it has the approval of both women AND men.

I wonder why every women's Halloween costume catalog features a majority of revealing clothes as if revealing clothes are what the culture demands of women during Halloween.

Why do we forget the creativity, spontaneity, and innovation that Halloween used to glorify?

As a child, I remember carefully planning my Halloween costume. I wanted to be original, and I most certainly did not want another kid in the neighborhood walking around in my costume. I remember coordinating superhero t-shirts with my friends in middle school, thinking that our idea was so clever.

Now, less than six years later, I notice a vast difference between what I and what today's middle school/ high-schoolers find "normal Halloween apparel".

Today, I see girls who wear black crop tops, jean shorts, and high-rise socks amidst the cool autumn breeze of late October, calling themselves "Cats."

I see girls who use scissors to demolish any plain white t-shirt, then splatter fake blood all over themselves, calling themselves "Zombie Girls"; should I believe them? Or should I think that the only reason they destroyed their old white t-shirt was to provide a costume that shows off their bra and whatever else is underneath?

Are there ulterior motives to implementing "sexy" Halloween costumes as the "norm" for young girls?

I wish Halloween wasn't a holiday that encouraged the sexualization of women. Instead, I think you should be that original, creative, and innovative person you strive to be. Don't let society tell you what you ought to wear on a kid's holiday.

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12 Essential Tips for Blonde Hair Care

Blonde Hair Care

They say that blondes have more fun. If this is true, it is not surprising why a lot of people wish they have blonde hair. Unsurprisingly, a lot of people resort to coloring their hair blonde – sometimes even just to be able to try the look. 

Once you have decided to go blonde, a trip to your hair stylist is not the only thing you will have to do. Undergoing this drastic hair transformation also involves high maintenance to keep your golden locks vibrant. 

For starters, making sure that your hair is at its healthiest will help a lot when it comes to how well your coloring job will go. If you want optimal results, your hair should be well-moisturised and nourished before you color it blonde.

Once your hair has been colored blonde, you will have to care for it well so that it lasts looking healthy and vibrant. There are three major things to consider when caring for your newly blonde hair: hydration, sun protection, and color vibrancy. Keep in mind these few tips to stay beautifully blonde:

· Hydrate your hair deeply and regularly. Use color-safe products, particularly your shampoo and conditioner. You may also consider using leave-in conditioners and hair oils for that extra moisture all day long, keeping your hair soft even after a bath or a shower.

· Schedule regular trims. You will need to visit your stylist regularly if you want to maintain your blonde hair. Colored hair becomes dry hair which is then prone to breakage. Get rid of those split ends with frequent trims. While in the salon, you may also want to go for other treatment your stylish recommends.

· Undergo gloss treatment. A gloss treatment in the salon will go a long way for that extra shine and moisture your hair needs.

· Use products with heat protection and UV filters. Heat can be extremely damaging to hair, especially to colored hair. There are heat protection and UV filter products designed to protect your hair from the strong and harmful rays of the sun, especially if you are usually outside. Just spray or apply the product before you step out. 

· Use hats and scarves. Just like how you would protect your skin from the sun, do the same for your hair! Hats and scarves are great for that extra sun protection with a stylish impact.

· Use swimming caps. The chlorine in swimming pools may react to your new blonde hair, turning it an unsightly, unwanted shade of green. Although avoiding swimming pools is the best way to care for your blonde-colored hair, swimming and having fun in the water might not be worth giving up for blonde fun. If you cannot avoid going into a swimming pool, make sure to wear a swimming cap to protect your blonde mane.

· Wet your hair with filtered water before plunging in to the pool. If you do not have any swim cap, make sure to wet your hair with filtered water first. Once your hair is already wet with filtered water, it will serve as some sort of barrier between your hair strands and the chlorinated pool water.

· Invest on a filter for your showerhead. Water from the shower and faucets of your home often includes very small materials that are not good for your colored hair. Put a filter on your showerhead to trap these unwanted minerals, such as copper and chlorine, which could change the color of your hair. 

· Use clarifying shampoo. If your hair suffers a color change due to minerals found in pools and hard water at home, shift to a clarifying shampoo.

· Avoid using heating tools for styling. Again, whether colored or not, heat can cause damage to your hair, but it can be even more damaging for colored hair. Avoid hair dryers, hair irons, curling irons, and the like, to style your newly blonde hair as it may do more harm than good. But if you must, use in moderation and in a much cooler setting.

· Wash your hair less frequently. There is no need to wash and shampoo your hair everyday. Not only for the color to last longer, but more so for the strands to recover the natural oils.

"Alternate use of color-appropriate shampoo with toning shampoo. You can try out Fanola No Yellow Shampoo, a purple shampoo which helps eliminate unwanted yellow tones from the hair, keeping your hair healthy and beautiful. You can never go wrong with the world’s number one best toning shampoo for blondes."

Keep in mind that changing the color of your hair goes beyond leaving the salon. It will be a big change on your hair maintenance routine. After all the trouble of coloring your hair blonde, it is good to invest money and time to maintain not only your new hair color, but also the overall health of your hair. And you know what? It would be worth it!

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Cutting My Hair Off Wasn't A Brave Decision

I just didn't have a choice.

I never considered myself a girl that defined herself by her hair.

This past May, people started to notice how long my hair was. When I would walk into my local coffee shop, I was greeted with "Hey, Rapunzel!" This past June, I had a stroke. This past September, I cut my hair off. I got a pixie cut, and I feel like a completely different person. When I had my stroke, I had a drain put in. In order to do that, they had to shave my head, but they ended up shaving only part of it.

When I finally regained consciousness, my hair was pretty much gone.

Whenever I would reach up to run my hands through it, I would hit a tube instead. I was in the neuro ICU for so long that I made friends with the charge nurse that was usually there. She braided what little hair I still had, and it made me feel like I was still a real person. She always used to ask what I planned to do with my hair. One side was completely buzzed, and the other side was about a foot long. I really didn't know what I wanted to do. I figured that I would cross that bridge when I came to it. Some nurses suggested that I leave it buzzed on one side, but just get it touched up. Others said that I should just cut it all off.

When I was finally sent from the ICU to a rehab facility, I decided that I needed to figure out what to do. I was in an inpatient rehab facility, but I didn't plan to be there for long. While I was there, my goal was not only to re-learn to walk, but also to get comfortable with touching my own head.

That seems like a really weird statement, I know. Like I said before, I had a drain coming out of my head for about two months. Eventually, it was taken out, and I got a stitch to keep it closed. Even though there was a stitch, there was still some scarring and it scabbed over. There was no hair there to distract me from the feeling of a scabbed-over wound. Right before I left ICU, they even re-buzzed my head so that they could stitch it up.

Eventually, I felt better about touching my head. I didn't notice the stitch as much as time went on. My mom trimmed up some stray hairs that they had missed when they shaved my head the first time, and I guess that I felt better.

When they eventually discharged me from rehab, I felt like the decision was more pressing than before. I stalled on it for a really long time. I blamed it on the fact that I was preoccupied with recovering, and said that I just didn't feel like deciding yet.

When I moved back into my apartment in West Virginia, six hours away from home, I figured that I really needed to decide. I could keep braiding it and flipping my hair over the buzzed side, but that was a lot of work. I could keep wearing hats and headbands, but I knew that I couldn't do that forever. Plus my hair would grow in REALLY unevenly.

My roommate convinced me that I just needed to suck it up and cut it, so I did. I hated it. A lot.

I didn't know what to do with it. Eventually, I ended up getting it actually styled. I liked that better, but I still hated it.

A lot of people would remark "Wow, you're so brave for cutting your hair!", but it wasn't brave. I just really didn't have a choice. Sure, I wish that it was a brave decision. I wish that I had decided it on my own. But I didn't. I felt backed into a corner.

You know the analogy about an animal that's chained to something? They're there for so long that they gnaw off the chained limb in order to escape. That's how I felt. My long hair was a chained limb, and I had to cut it off. Emotionally, it really hurt, and I still haven't come to terms with it.

My long hair made me feel more approachable. Whenever I'm out in public, people are less likely to approach me now that I've cut my hair. I haven't even changed my profile pictures on social media.

When I see people that I used to be friends with, I just pretend that I don't see them. I just assume that they won't recognize me. Sure, there are new tagged photos of me on Facebook, but I'm uncomfortable with every single one of them. My Tinder profile is still just photos from before my stroke. My Twitter avatar was taken only days before my stroke.

Eventually, yeah, I'll probably update my social media. But not now. I'm still not ready for it.

Cover Image Credit: Neve McClymont

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