Why We Are No Longer Friends

We Are No Longer Friends, Thank U, Next

Bye, Felicia.

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I look back and all we had were some funny memories. Other than that, it was nothing special.

I always had to text you first. We even got in an argument about it. Our friendship was not 50/50, it was more 80/20. I had to be there for you, but when something was wrong with me you didn't care. It was always about you, about what guy you were seeing, your drama, your life, and nothing of mine was considered. My feelings were never considered when you decided multiple times not to show up at my house when you said you would, and go days without replying to my text, if you would even reply. It hurt. I gave you so many chances, yet you ruined all of them. It was enough...

All friendships end differently, and everyone copes differently. People get hurt. Letting go of a friend because they're no longer good for you hurts. They may have been good for you at one point, but then one day you realize that all they do is bring negativity into your life. Maybe they were never good for you. Realizing this was very difficult. I did not want to believe that they were no longer good for me.

You eventually just need to cut them off. Take them off your social media. Taking them off can help you part ways and not be reminded of your friendship every time you look on Instagram or see who viewed your Snapchat story. At the end of the day, holding onto the few good memories you had during your friendship never works. The bad outweighs the good. Removing them from social media, and deleting photos will help you begin to not think about it very often.

Real friends are hard to come by and everyone has struggled with it.

We will all continue to struggle with it for the rest of our lives. One thing I have learned is to realize your worth. You are not worth getting ignored, and you deserve to be cared about. Friendships go both ways, and both people have to put in equal effort. You both have to care about each other to be good friends for one another.

I have never had the long-lasting friendships that every one desires. I go through different phases in my life and my friends will come and go with those phases. It hurts, but I am learning to live with it. Losing friends can only make you stronger, and more independent in yourself. Losing friends can help you find yourself, what you don't want to be like, and how to be a better friend.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.
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When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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My First Year Of College Wasn’t Great And That’s Okay

I didn’t adjust as well as I thought I would, but I made it.

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Everyone always raves about how much they loved their freshman year of college. The independence, the parties, meeting all these new people from different places. It's a big milestone in your life. But not everyone has an amazing first year. And I'm one of those people.

Don't get me wrong. I was so excited about college. Finally getting to be on my own, experiencing all these new things. I even met people in my class before we moved in. And the first month was a blast...but then it wasn't anymore.

Eventually, I slid into this “funk", you could say. I was depressed. I never wanted to leave my bed. Some nights, I didn't even wanna eat dinner. And soon, my friends noticed but soon just stopped inviting me out.

At first, they still would, even though the answer was always no. But I guess they got bored and tired of me always saying no.

Soon, I didn't feel like I even had any friends and at one point, I even found myself debating going home to avoid being alone in my room all weekend. I would force myself to make plans, but found myself not wanting to go out because I got ignored every time I did. It wasn't worth it.

I was homesick, isolated, and just wanted to fit in.

When the year finally came to an end, I couldn't be happier. But now that it is over and I'm home, I realize how much I miss the people that were there for me. The people that came into my life unexpectedly, but it was hard for me to really recognize they care about me.

I absolutely hated my freshman year of college. Yeah, it started out good and I found my sorority, but I never felt like I was wanted anywhere. I felt so alone. I became so incredibly isolated and distant and it took a drastic toll on me as a person.

But in spite of all that, I realize that maybe that's how it was supposed to happen. Because I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and it will all play out.

This being said, my first year might not have been what I thought or hoped for. But I can truly say I am excited to see what my next year holds.

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