Since I was a little girl, I dreamed of having kids. Being a mom has always been something that I knew I wanted to do, no matter the way. But it seems to me that as I get older, motherhood is now something that is viewed as something you do after your career goals are satisfied.
“Wait until your 30,” I hear a lot. But why should I wait until 30 if I’m ready before then? I've never been someone who is really excited about a career or what I was going to do after college; I've just always wanted to be a mom. Family is so important in life; it's the only thing that keeps us alive really. If family is so important, why are women being put down for wanting to have children young, and or not having crazy career goals?
A few months ago, when my sister and I were in a fight she yelled at me, “Well at least I want to be more than a mom.” I think my heart stopped. Why would anyone think that having a career over being a mom is more important or better?
And don’t get me wrong, if you want to be the first woman president of the USA or you want to be a doctor or get to a really high up and into a well-paid position before you have kids, do it, girl! Accomplish your dreams! But don’t put me down because my dream is to have babies.
I could give a ton of reasons of why I don’t agree with a career being more important than having children, but I don’t because I am in awe of women who are so so driven and professional! You’re the women who break barriers and further women’s rights and do so many good things for women all over the world.
But the thing is, I am doing that same thing just in a different way. While you are changing the world for my children, I am changing the world with my children. Both jobs are equally tiring, life-changing, and helping the world become a better place.
While you work your way up to the top having to deal with creepy men, salaries that aren’t equal, and other women putting you down for being who you are, I will be teaching my sons to not grow up to be the creepy men you deal with, my daughters to raise up ALL women in support of however they decide to live their lives, and teach all of them to love all people and raise happy and healthy families of their own someday.
I think I feel so strongly about this because I don’t understand why someone could put down women wanting to become a mother over having a career. You are here because your mother put you first, and maybe she had a full career before having you, but that doesn’t mean that women that don’t want both, don’t work just as hard.
In the grand scheme of the world, that's literally what we were put on this earth to do, procreate! I feel the same excitement about being a full-time mom that you feel about being a full-time lawyer someday. We both want the same thing, to be kick ass at our jobs and change the world.
So the next time you think in your head or say to someone, “She’s a stay at home mom, that's so easy what does she even do, watch Ellen?.” Yeah, she might get to fit Ellen in once in a while, but she’s also making sure that your future children grow up with good people around them, and that they leave the planet a better place than they found it.
Stay at home moms deserve an award. They work so hard to make sure their households stay together. Really though, ALL moms deserve an award, working moms, part-time moms, stay at home moms. Just moms, in general, are amazing people and should never be put down for putting their children first.
Like I said, you are here because your mom worked her ass off to make you the awesome person that you are. Stop putting down women for following their dreams, even if they are different from what you see as a “dream” or “goal.”
We all know that women actually rule the world; let's all stop tearing each other down, and actually build each other up for each others differences and different strengths. Little by little we can all make the world a better place, in whatever way that is.
