Turning 20 made me think about a lot of things: this is a new decade, this is big, where am I going to be in 5 years? But one of the biggest things I've noticed is that now I am looking less and less for just any guy, but a good guy, a nice guy. A gentleman.

I know what you're thinking: a gentleman? In college? I know, I know… but hear me out.

A man with no pretences. No expectations. A man you can distinguish from a boy among frat guys and philosophy majors. A man with small interest in hook ups and Tinder dates. A man who calls his parents, who brags about his siblings and family. A man who was brought up knowing that a relationship is of two people, and two people only. A man who isn’t afraid to tell you how he feels and what he feels.

Just imagine it, the reassurance of dating a gentleman. Of knowing that even though there will be mistakes and bumps along the way, he is trustworthy and courteous. Because a gentleman will show you off on social media, not for your body or your dress, but for his family to see the two of you. He will want his mom to meet you, his siblings to adore you.

So call me crazy, call me unrealistic. I’m looking for my gentleman, because I’m tired of cuffing season, and Tinder, and college boys too afraid of feelings and commitment.