Often times when we think of relationships we think of someone who is “our better half”. I think this is the furthest from the truth. Relationships were not created so that people who were half empty to feel full again. We live in a generation where we are constantly looking for another person to help fill the void in our hearts. However, we should be looking for that inside ourselves first.
If you do not love yourself enough to trust the process and be alone for awhile then no relationship will ever work out. We need time to ourselves, to find ourselves as the person we are rather than being another half of somebody else.
Relationships should be additions to our life not part of our life or our whole life. If this were true and if the relationship were to end then the person would take “half of you”. Now this doesn’t seem fair does it. You spent your whole life trying to be someone you are proud of. You worked your ass off to try and be something amazing. Then you are giving someone the power to take half of that away from you only leave you completely empty.
If you cannot learn to be alone and be happy with who you are, aside from being so-and-so’s significant other, then who are you. Relationships were created to be an addition onto our life, someone we can depend on and love on the days we feel like there is no hope or light left in this world.
Of course we will all experience heartbreaks but it should not feel like the entire world is ending because you are no longer in a relationship. Work on yourself first, everything else will fall into place.
