As I grow older, the more I realize how so many things are different than how they used to be. One topic that I have been discussing recently with a few of my close friends is "dating" because apparently I am full of wisdom and have all the answers (totally joking), but we talked about how "dating" doesn't even seem to be a part of anyone's vocabulary in this generation anymore, which breaks my heart a little bit.
"Dating" isn't even a thing anymore in our generation.
People either "hang out" with one another, or they are just looking to hook-up and that's the end of that. Basically, no one talks about their feelings or anything real anymore. Everyone acts like they don't want a real relationship and they just feed off of social media likes and texting each other back and forth. Who wants a relationship like that? Not me.
I deserve to be in a committed relationship with someone who supports me, helps me grow into a better person, and isn't afraid of being labeled as my "boyfriend." Oh yeah, I forgot to mention that guys don't tend to enjoy labeling relationships either anymore. This makes no sense because if you are dating someone wouldn't you want to be referred to as either their boyfriend or girlfriend? This is another reason why our generation sucks at romantic relationships.
Anyways, as selfish as that may sound, I don't care. I think that when it comes to who you want to be in a relationship with, everyone has the right to be picky. You should never settle for less than you deserve, and that should apply to who you choose to love as well. So, I am perfectly okay with continuing to be selfish until my knight in shining armor comes around.
I don't want a guy to refer to me as "the girl he is just talking to on Snapchat", or "the girl he follows on Instagram and her likes all her pictures."
I know I am still young, but I don't have the time or the energy to put up with immature or temporary people. I also think technology has impacted our generations' mindsets in a negative way in regards to how relationships should be.
Everything is always glorified on social media, including relationships. I am not saying that social media is pure evil and the source of all our problems because it can be used for good, but it definitely is a contributing factor as to why modern dating sucks.
So, there you have it my friends, my feelings about why our generation sucks at relationships and just dating overall. This is a topic that I have always wanted to touch on, but I never felt like I knew how to put my thoughts into words.
I hope the social media side of relationships becomes less trendy soon and people begin to realize what they are worth and remember what real dating and relationships are like. Until that point, go out and focus on yourself and don't worry about that lame boy (or girl) not texting you back. You deserve the love you give to others, so go be selfish, have fun, and explore the world in the meantime.
