When it comes to friends, I’m honestly not picky with who I associate myself with. As long as we’re not going to jail, dealing with your pimp, or robbing a bank, then I have no problem associating with you. When it comes to my closest friends, we can get as crazy as we want. Whenever they need me, I’m there, no matter how much trouble we may get in. The best part about my inner circle, though, is how low maintenance they are.
I have a circle of friends who I don’t talk to every day, every week, or every month. But trust me when I say that there is no bad blood. I’ve come to realize that as much as I would love to hear my best friend’s voice every day, I have my schedule and she has hers, and that’s okay. Some friends text each other constantly throughout the day and have every meal with each other if possible, but that’s just not me.
My best friendships always have space in between them, and I love that. I’m never at a loss for words with the distance either, because I can pick up a conversation we had three months ago like nothing happened. Our bond is strong enough that seeing each other doesn’t make any difference. We support each other all the same, and when I see them being successful and doing their thing, you better believe I’m one of the first ones clapping for them and shouting their name at the top of my lungs.
As great as high maintenance friends can be (trust me, they have their perks), the high energy, the constant interaction, and the occasional (and frequent) complaints and nagging can interrupt my schedule and lead to endless fights that I would rather avoid. We all have that one friend who is great, but is clingy and forces you to put all your time and energy into them, and that’s not okay.
As great as it is to have friends who you see all the time, it’s not always needed. A quick text here and there to check up, or even a thirty second phone call to ask how they’re doing, should suffice. Friendships shouldn’t be a job, nor should they cause you to give up the things that are important to you.
So, as one twitter post that I love says: shoutout to low maintenance friends, the ones you don't talk to for months because you’re both living life, but when you meet up, there's nothing but love.
