Thinking about long distance relationships can be discouraging and intimidating. Imagining the one you share feelings for is in a different area then you can easily create doubts in your mind about how your relationship is going to last. The long distance may not be for you however, it’s always worth it to put your best foot forward and try. Personally, I’ve experienced the long distance relationship and here is why I think it is worth it.
Yes it’s true, goodbyes never get any easier and I can promise you that. When the day comes that you both have to go your separate ways, your stomach will churn and your throat will ache from fighting back tears. However, with this goodbye, you’re one day closer to seeing them again. If you want to see how strong your relationship is this is the true test. Having to carry out your days without your other half is an adjustment. Although, you both get to function as your own person and get to experience opportunities without holding each other back.
If you had prior difficulty with jealousy, you’re going to need to learn how to push that emotion to the side. It’s only natural to worry about there being other people, but if you begin to obsess you will only create unnecessary arguments.
This is where you learn how important communication is. While in a long distance relationship, your communication will only strengthen. Things will not always be perfect in your relationship, which is understandable, how boring would that be if it were? From these imperfections you will learn how to share your thoughts without being overbearing or accusing and how to maturely respond. From this strength in communication your trust will grow as well. As soon as you realize your significant other is keeping you updated with what they are doing your mind will be more at ease.
While away from each other, you begin to realize how much you took for granted the amount of time you got to spend with each other. Now you have to work around each other’s busy schedules in order to make time to talk. Little things that not so long ago felt miniscule will become big things such as, simply calling. After a long day there is nothing more comforting than the sound of you significant other’s voice. You will creatively need to think of ways to make yourself present within your significant other’s life but it is that effort that will keep your relationship alive.
Lastly, the greatest perk of a long distance relationship is when you finally get to reunite with that person. The butterflies you experience when you first start falling for someone will resurface during this times of reuniting. Whether you’re visiting them or both on the same break the time you get to be together is more cherished than it once was before.
Even though you have your own separate lives, you’re still the same people and still share the same feelings for each other. The distance means putting in extra effort but this will positively affect your relationship and ultimately make you closer. Outsiders can fill your mind with all the negativity of long distance relationships but I was always taught to fight for what I want.
