Everyone has a person in their life that has wronged them in some way. Whether it was betrayal or a moment of disrespect, you walked away with ill feelings towards them and probably still do even today. The moment that your relationship with that person crumbled, you vowed to never speak to them again or forgive them. If what they did to you was really that bad, every time you hear their name you roll your eyes and groan in distaste. A piece of you will always be annoyed that other people are still friends with them. If you thought of someone while reading this, its probably because like me, you're still holding a grudge towards them.
It's time to let it go.
Most of the time we hold a grudge because we never got that apology that we feel is owed to us. So we hold that grudge forever because we never reached that closure. When both parties have the issue of too much pride, a honest conversation and an admitting of any wrong doings never occurs. You need to let go of the title of the "wronged one." Just because you never receive that apology doesn't mean you can't release your grudge.
Acceptance that whatever occurred, happened for a reason, can bring you to a place of relaxation. You no longer are buried in bitter feelings and resentment. It leaves you with a healthy heart and mind and also leaves a door open for future reconciliation. Holding the grudge doesn't heal you or comfort you in any way, shape or form. It keeps you bitter and unable to move on from the past. Holding onto a grudge is you feeding your own ego. Being able to fully let go and accept the loss is essential in personal growth. So do yourself and just let it go.
“Let today be the day you stop being haunted by the ghost of yesterday. Holding a grudge & harboring anger/resentment is poison to the soul. Get even with people...but not those who have hurt us, forget them, instead get even with those who have helped us.”
― Steve Maraboli, "Life, The Truth and Being Free"
