You may have come into your freshman year of high school and met a great group of people that you thought,"Wow, these are some of the best people I have ever met! I hope we stay friends forever!" But there was a limit on forever.
You started growing up and discovering you had different interests and different passions. Senior year rolled around and you were all going to different colleges. You were separating. You met a couple new friends senior year that you bonded closer with over your interests or maybe they were going to the same college as you. You started hanging out with them and forgetting your freshman year friends.
Long story short, you all stopped talking to each other when you left for college. Maybe it was an occasional like on an Instagram picture or a favorite on a tweet, but that was the extent of it. The huge group of people that you started high school with wasn't the same anymore, it has diminished, and that's okay.
This, however, is not a bad thing. Things change all the time and change can sometimes be a really good thing. When my friends started graduating high school before me, I was devastated. I was basically left almost completely alone. I tried keeping in contact with them by texting or commenting on pictures and statuses, but it was hard. Not just for me, but for them too.
College is a whole new ballpark and keeping in touch with friends still in high school or at other colleges is even harder. It's like you're in two different worlds and it can be almost impossible to keep up. I realized that I needed to give up this fight I was enduring because it wasn't because it wasn't worth it, it's just that I needed to let them move on and begin their new lives. I realized this too once I graduated High School and left for college. I realized that I wouldn't be making the same contact with my old friends every day anymore.
Daily texts would turn into weekly and weekly texts turned into monthly until they were almost non-existing. I was making new friendships and developing my new life. I didn't want to say that I didn't have time for things that were back home, but in reality, it was true. I didn't have time and that's okay.
High School friends aren't always forever either. You may think they are, but then one day you're walking around campus and accidentally bump into a complete stranger, and then a week later you're inseparable. Maybe your roommate is also one of those people that take you off guard and become your best friend instantly. We don't always mean for these things to happen, but they do and it's not a bad thing.
I still talk to my high school friends occasionally, especially when I come home for breaks. Sometimes we hang out and it's like none of us ever left, and sometimes it's awkward. That's something that will happen when being away for months, and that's okay.
I've met a great group of people in college and it's made me forget about high school almost completely and all the bad friendships that I had. There are a few I still keep in contact with and see over breaks, but let's just say the number is nowhere near what it was my Senior year of high school, and that was only a year ago.
What I'm trying to really say is, get out there and enjoy this new life you'll be creating for yourself and try not to worry about what you're leaving behind from high school. If they're your true friends, they'll understand, but if not, that's their loss. I've never forgotten my friends from high school, but I knew that I had to leave them behind for my own "selfish" reasons, and that is absolutely okay for you too.
