As millennials, it seems that most of our parents’ generation got married in their 20s. As a 21-year-old, this terrifies me. I can’t even imagine being settled down and tied down within the next 9 years. Although, the fact that Generation X (our parents’ generation) is known as “the divorce generation” should also be taken into account. Perhaps getting married young isn’t the best option. It’s time to alleviate some of that pressure of settling down so early in life. Maybe divorcing the idea of marriage isn’t so radical, but rather about focusing on ourselves in our young adult lives.

Don’t get me wrong. There is nothing wrong with going on dates, meeting new people and experiencing romance. But as millennials in our 20s, we are still finding ourselves. It is pertinent to find yourself before you find someone else. The only constant in this world is change. This means that love is ever-changing as well. It comes in all forms, shapes and sizes. Once we discover who we are, then we can look for a partner who compliments our souls and adds to our person in a positive way.

Millennials are currently working on changing the world. We have the biggest voice and we do all we can to make it heard. With the social climate changing, careers are being put in front of starting a family. And that’s OK. Education is overwhelmingly important. It’s OK to learn and build your career first. It’s also more than OK to take the time to travel and try something new. Our eyes must be open to all aspects of this world in order for us to change it.

So don’t worry, Mom and Dad. This Thanksgiving, I will more than likely still be single. But that’s OK. I’m working on building myself, discovering myself, and contributing to changing this broken world just like all my other millennial friends. Love will come later.