I think we can all agree it was very uncool of Taylor Swift to take credit for writing the lyrics to Calvin Harris' "This Is What You Came For" after she had already decided to go under a pseudonym. It was doubly uncool that she had her reps confirm it without even giving her ex a heads-up that she was doing it. However, this didn't give Harris a license to get on Twitter and share all of his resentment to millions of people. That was just as uncool as what she did.
We've all been there or had a friend who's been there. An angry ex takes to social media to reveal all of their rosy feelings about their former significant other-- usually containing name-calling, blaming, shaming, or a glorious combination.The best part is that everyone can now see the bitter thoughts of an ex post-break up. Honestly, how did people humiliate and terrorize their exes before social media?
I don't think I'm exaggerating when I use the word "terrorize." Being on the receiving end of a hurtful, humiliating post feels like being locked in the stocks without having any control over who sees your humiliation.
In case you were wondering, these are stocks. There's a reason they're not put in practice anymore. There's something so dehumanizing about trapping a person into accepting anyone's jabs and sneers, no matter how "deserved." I don't care if your significant other cheated on you. I don't care if they didn't stand up to their mother for you. And honestly, I doubt anyone else really cares and those who do aren't supporting your stance when they support your post, they're supporting the degradation of another person.
Taylor Swift can't take down Calvin Harris' tweets. She can't control who sees them. She can't control people's wild theories about her former relationship. After spending over a year with Harris, Swift has to see him publicly ridicule her and hear media outlets dissect it every day until a new juicy piece of gossip comes along. And worst of all, Harris has given others the go-ahead to continue his ridicule of Swift by opening the discussion.
If people are upset over their ex's actions for handling something incorrectly, then why do they stoop to an even lower level by taking their critiques and anger to social media? In the case of Calvin Harris, he should've ended his tweets after admitting Taylor Swift wrote the lyrics to the song but that he did everything else. No one needed to know his opinion on your ex's love life or former friendships, and his rant didn't have to make Taylor look bad...
Just stay off social media when you're angry. It's like drunk texting. It's a bad idea when you're not in the right mindset to share with the world. And isn't having a relationship a PERSONAL decision? Why turn it into a public forum just because you broke up? Break-ups can be nasty, but it's a personal choice to let it get nasty.
Oh, and harassment is a real thing so tread lightly psycho exes.
