Why It's Good To Be Offended

Why It's Good To Be Offended

Challenge your beliefs.

As I sat in one of my college classes this semester, one of the first things my teacher discussed was his disclaimer for the course. His words were something along the lines of, "I will offend each and every one of you before this semester is over." One of my other teachers followed suit the next day and delivered the same message. I was a bit shocked that both of these teachers would openly announce something like this. Most of my teachers in the past tried to stay relatively objective and keep their opinions to themselves, so this was a bit of a foreign concept. This got me thinking about what it means to be offended and what, if anything, good can come of it. After thinking it over, I've came to the conclusion that it can be good to be offended.

Most people view being offended as a bad thing. Why would you want to hear something that upsets you, something that calls into question some of your beliefs? The problem that arises as a result of this kind of thinking is that you only surround yourself with people that share the same opinions as you. If you don't open yourself up to people that have other views, you have shut yourself off from the opportunity to learn more about the world around you. Get a debate started, learn more about something you're passionate about by hearing what people from the opposing side have to say. Hearing what they have to say doesn't have to change your mind, but it can make you more tolerant of their beliefs and allow you to learn more about the topic as a whole.

Being offended can also be beneficial because it can help you realize why you have your beliefs in the first place. If somebody calls your views into question and you get offended, it's probably because you have a certain reasoning behind holding the beliefs that you do. If you can't pinpoint your rational behind your opinions, why even be offended in the first place?

In conclusion, I believe that being offended can help you realize what is important in your life and possibly open you up to debates that can help you learn more about the world around you. This isn't to say that you should be offended by everything. In fact, in some ways we are a hypersensitive generation and seem to be vexed by everything. However, I believe that if you do become offended you should allow your reaction to help benefit you and allow it to be a good thing, not a bad thing.

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I'm The Girl Who'd Rather Raise A Family Than A Feminist Protest Sign

You raise your protest picket signs and I’ll raise my white picket fence.

Social Media feeds are constantly filled with quotes on women's rights, protests with mobs of women, and an array of cleverly worded picket signs.

Good for them, standing up for their beliefs and opinions. Will I be joining my tight-knit family of the same gender?

Nope, no thank you.

Don't get me wrong, I am not going to be oblivious to my history and the advancements that women have fought to achieve. I am aware that the strides made by many women before me have provided us with voting rights, a voice, equality, and equal pay in the workforce.

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For that, I am deeply thankful. But at this day in age, I know more female managers in the workforce than male. I know more women in business than men. I know more female students in STEM programs than male students. So what’s with all the hype? We are girl bosses, we can run the world, we don’t need to fight the system anymore.

Please stop.

Because it is insulting to the rest of us girls who are okay with being homemakers, wives, or stay-at-home moms. It's dividing our sisterhood, and it needs to stop.

All these protests and strong statements make us feel like now we HAVE to obtain a power position in our career. It's our rightful duty to our sisters. And if we do not, we are a disappointment to the gender and it makes us look weak.

Weak to the point where I feel ashamed to say to a friend “I want to be a stay at home mom someday.” Then have them look at me like I must have been brain-washed by a man because that can be the only explanation. I'm tired of feeling belittled for being a traditionalist.


Because why should I feel bad for wanting to create a comfortable home for my future family, cooking for my husband, being a soccer mom, keeping my house tidy? Because honestly, I cannot wait.

I will have no problem taking my future husband’s last name, and following his lead.

The Bible appoints men to be the head of a family, and for wives to submit to their husbands. (This can be interpreted in so many ways, so don't get your panties in a bunch at the word “submit”). God specifically made women to be gentle and caring, and we should not be afraid to embrace that. God created men to be leaders with the strength to carry the weight of a family.

However, in no way does this mean that the roles cannot be flipped. If you want to take on the responsibility, by all means, you go girl. But for me personally? I'm sensitive, I cry during horror movies, I'm afraid of basements and dark rooms. I, in no way, am strong enough to take on the tasks that men have been appointed to. And I'm okay with that.

So please, let me look forward to baking cookies for bake sales and driving a mom car.

And I'll support you in your endeavors and climb to the top of the corporate ladder. It doesn't matter what side you are on as long as we support each other, because we all need some girl power.

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