I think it’s safe to say that at one point in most people’s lives, they have either ended a friendship, or simply drifted from a certain person as time has gone on. Whether it be the friendship was toxic and it caused you more harm than good, or that you just outgrew the relationship; it happened and that’s a good thing.

It’s a good thing because it allows you to make room for someone new. It’s a good thing because you are human and you grow and you change and therefore as you grow and change, your likes, dislikes, aspirations, hopes, and dreams, change too. As you change, the things that you look for in a friendship will change as well.

Maybe you used to be a huge party girl in high school and you just wanted a a friend who you could party with all weekend. Then, maybe you got to college and realized you had to pay your way through the entire four years and you came to the realization that you needed to find a friend who was in a similar situation as you. You needed to find someone that could understand your wants and needs and help you achieve your goals. For better or for worse, your old party girl just couldn’t cut it anymore and you had to move on. You had to lose a friend.

But the thing about losing friends is that it means you’re growing. I found an Elite Daily post on Instagram this morning that said “If you’re not losing friends, you're not growing up.” And that resonated with me because lately I’ve been really starting to re-evaluate a friendship that I made last year in college. And what I’ve started to realize is that the friendship I cherished a lot last year, wasn’t benefiting me in the same ways that I necessarily wanted or needed this year.

And what I realized, is that is O.K. It’s actually okay to realize that. Because in the process, you are becoming more and more yourself. What I realized was that instead of just letting this friendship dwindle like it should, I was fighting to keep it alive. But for what reason? I’ve always been a firm believer that quality over quantity is the way to go with anything in life, so why was I trying to save a friendship that no longer served a purpose in my life or made me happy anymore?

Because I was scared I wouldn’t find anyone else. But then I realized that watering a dead plant won’t bring it back to life. And that instead, sprinkling some of that water onto some new little flower buds is a better use of my time and my water.

And so that is why it’s okay to let friendships dwindle and sizzle out. That person was in your life for a certain period of time and you should be grateful for that time you spent together, but now it’s time to find new people that will better you and give you what you need for this stage in your life. You’re growing and you’re not the same person you used to be. It’s okay to water some new flowers.