I don't know if it's just me, but why is it so hard to get into a relationship while at college? I go to Boston University, a huge university in the heart of a beautiful (youth-filled) city. So why have I not had any luck in the dating game? I know, "don't look for love, let love find you," but even when I am not looking, nobody seems to be blowing up my phone. I'm not saying I'm begging for attention, I'm just extremely confused. I'm no Blake Lively, but I wouldn't say I'm ugly. I'm a smart, kind girl at a great university in a college town...with not one potential relationship pending. Now, I am not just having a pity party for myself; my friends and other college peers seem to be experiencing the same problem.
There's the obvious "guys don't want to be tied down" mantra that everyone seems to have memorized. But that's not entirely true--most college guys enter long-term relationships between junior and senior year. Is it just the freshman boys that think it's cool to hook up with every girl on campus so they can brag to their other loser friends about the notches on their belt? But if that's not the reason, what is it?
I've seen our "hookup culture" and I have to say, it's really, for lack of a better word, stupid. Sure, it's fun to party and not have a care in the world about who you're kissing at 2 a.m--but when you wake up and do that lovely walk of shame home, nobody is waiting for you. You'll most likely never hear from that guy again, and even if you do, you'll probably have no future together. It doesn't matter if you catch the feels--if he doesn't care, you'll know. I think after finding a hookup that I actually liked, I tried so hard with him until I ultimately scared him away. I shouldn't have gotten my hopes up, but, it can't be all my fault.
So after a few crappy experiences with this hookup culture, I decided I was ready to find a nice guy to commit to. I didn't realize it would be this hard to find one to commit back. I've seen all the movies and TV shows representing college life as a time for everyone to experiment with dating and relationships. So far my college dating life is extremely non-existent. Why did "Greek" lie to me?! I am still trying to figure out why this is the way it is and I don't want to blame all college guys because some genuinely do want a relationship but, uh, I guess I haven't met any of them yet.
Hey boys, be nice to girls who show interest in you. Give her a chance. You never know where it'll go. Life is too short to reject a girl because you wanna mess around with 100 girls or maybe you're just completely afraid of being "tied down." But if you find the right girl, it's not "tied down," it's "happily in love."
