In this generation, it seems like face to face contact is a thing of the past because the invention of the smartphone has let us connect through video chat, direct messages and more. Dating apps were originally created to be as a gateway for those who maybe move to a new city to meet and possibly make new friends. Thus it quickly flipped into dating applications. Tinder, Bumble and OkCupid are all apps some single people usually just use to hook up, but there have been cases where some people meet their current significant other via the app. It's modern day dating and I used to be a part of it, but now I'm glad I deactivated myself from that lifestyle. Tinder has about 25 million users since it's creation due to it's popularity and promotions on websites and the talk about it on certain TV shows. It's an app that can go anywhere and cat fishing could be caught easily. I found when I'd be swiping, I'd see people I knew lying about their age or it was someone using another persons photos. To me, it was sad to see that if you can't use your own photos, you just shouldn't be using the app at all. The point is to put yourself out there because you maybe too shy or unable to meet people in person. According to some statistics, you are more likely to be swiped right on if you're facing forward in the photo.
I honestly got sick of being disappointed and judged through the app by some guys. Don't get me wrong, in my short experience on the app I have met some wonderful guys who'm lucky to still be friends with today. But I found it cheesy and very unsettling when a guy's first message would be either inappropriate, degrading or plain rude. It's just funny how some expected me still to go visit or go out with them still when all they did was tell me my flaws and other sexist things. To be clear, not every guy was like this but there have been a few moments where I became insecure because of a small comment. I learned that it's what I grew up with, my brother would pick on my appearance to see me get angry because it made him feel powerful. These boys were doing the same, making me feel like I was less than them and hoping I'd submits and go under their wing to fix myself. That was not and never will be the solution for me because self love cannot be broken
Most users on this site are in the college age group, because tinder has the option to show your age, work and where you go or went to college since it connects to your Facebook. Sometimes I ended up seeing guys I graduated with showing up, that wasn't a nice surprise. I wanted to see people I didn't know, not make an awkward rekindle since high school. The constant swiping left and few times I met a boy who turned out to disappoint just got too old so fast. I felt like the app made me insecure again and I found myself crying even though I set myself up for it. I felt I needed to find a man through it just to feel successful from the app. But unless there's some luck and a connection like some have found, success is very slim.
