The words fat and skinny can cause a big stir when said in reference to people. Social media, news outlets and the Hollywood entertainment industry have made a large advancement in the ability to comment on someone’s weight or to be able to compare yourself to today’s hottest stars. I’ve seen so many people stress out, cry, and get downright depressed because of their weight or because of what they think people must think of them. Disney channel star and musician Demi Lovato developed an eating disorder after several rude comments were made about her being "too fat." If that doesn't prove something is wrong with our world and the way we treat others, then I don't know what does. For the record, Demi, you've always been a goddess to me.

So I’m here to take a stance today and tell you why I’m tired of all of this. Recently a popular Youtube star known as Nicole Arbour received a lot of heat after her “Dear Fat People” video went viral. In the video she is quoted as saying "Fat shaming is not a thing. Fat people made that up. That's the race card with no race. 'Yeah, but I couldn't fit into a store. That's discrimination'. Uh no. That means you are too fat, and you should stop eating."

Well, Nicole, I’m here to tell you there is such as thing as fat shaming and discrimination. While you may not agree with the #bodypositive movement, there is something you should agree with, which is basic human decency. However, this article isn't about you and you certainly aren't the first person to make these kind of comments.

Putting down another human being for any reason at all, whether true or not, is WRONG. Every single one of us has flaws and imperfections, but none of us are better than the next person. I don’t care if you weigh 125 pounds or 280 pounds we’re all getting buried under the same dirt when we die.

So for anyone out there who has ever worried about their weight, here are my reasons why I’ll never obsess over my weight and why you shouldn’t either.

Weight does not = healthy

Despite what people say you can still be healthy without being “skinny.” If you took six different people who, according to a scale, all weighed 154 pounds, you would still see six very different looking people. Some people will appear skinnier because of height or bone structure or the way they dress. The main thing to learn from this is that a number does not define you or what you are worth.

I'm not going to make myself miserable to please others.

When it comes to your health and happiness, that’s who you should put first, yourself. If you’re trying to lose weight to impress someone you have a crush on or because you don’t want people giving you weird looks when you step on to the beach in your bathing suit, then you’re doing it for the wrong reasons. Judgmental people will always find a way to judge you. If it’s not your weight, it’ll be your teeth or your clothes or God knows what else. To heck with them and their opinions, because the people whose opinions matter are the ones who love you just the way you are.

The time spent obsessing over your weight is time wasted.

I’m not saying you should never work out or sit in your house and eat a whole pizza by yourself, people. I still think everyone should make good choices when possible but there’s no reason to freak out over every single thing you eat and drink. When my friends and I go out for a girls lunch date I don’t want to spend the whole time figuring up how many calories I’m consuming or how much time I’ll need on the treadmill to work it off. I want to focus on my friends and making good memories together. All the time we spend stressing on our appearance is time we could have spent on much more important and happier things.

There are plenty of other things for me to stress about.

There is no doubt in my mind that people want to look their best on their wedding day and, as I am about to marry my fiancé in a few months, I’ve been hit with tons of offers for weight loss pills, drinks, surgeries, etc. I’ve declined every single offer. Why? Because I’m happy the way I am and I don’t need that extra stress. I have to find a way to feed over 100 guests at my wedding and figure out what in the world my centerpieces are going to be. I don’t have time to try to make myself miserable with a diet all just to get a “skinner” look for one day in my life or to fit into this “smaller” dress. When I went wedding dress shopping I bought the size dress that I already am, not the size dress I’m magically planning on getting into in the months before my wedding. My fiancé fell in love with me the way I look now and he’ll have to live with me the way I am until I die, so there’s no point in trying to change my appearance just for one day. Combine all of this with the fact I’m trying to finish up my senior year in college and figure out about getting a job and where I’m going to live after I graduate…there’s more than enough stress on my plate already.

I'm already happy.

It may surprise you to hear a girl who will never get a modeling career say that she is honestly happy with her appearance, but I am. I know other people would probably say I’m unattractive and certainly overweight, but I don’t care. It took me a long time to get this way and I’m not going to apologize for it anymore. I just feel with all my heart that there are so many more important things to worry about than our appearance and weight. I’ve got a goal for my life and that goal is not focused on being “hot” or keeping up with fashion trends and trying to make myself into someone I’m not. We all deserve to love ourselves despite our flaws and imperfections and we all deserve to look in the mirror and smile.

So that’s what it boils down to, everyone. Now before you go and claim that I’m “supporting fat people” or just trying to justify an unhealthy lifestyle, take a good hard look at what I said. I am not a doctor and cannot tell someone whether they should lose weight or not. I am simply saying that happiness will never come from reaching some magical number and that we should all just be happy and accepting of one another.