Why High School Years Are Not The Best Of Your Life

Why High School Years Are Not The Best Of Your Life

For some people, high school will not be the best four years of your life as promised

As the school year dwindles down, it’s the time of the year when high school seniors experience many “lasts.” Last sporting events, last chorus concerts, last proms. They’re having countdown to graduation celebrations, senior spirit weeks and other exciting, bittersweet days, some of which simply involve sitting in the cafeteria for the last time. I remember how nervous and excited I was, and I would say it feels like just yesterday, but the truth is, it feels like a million years ago.

As I scroll through my Facebook feed, I see my friends who are seniors in high school sharing articles about how high school will be “the best four years of your life,” and how you shouldn’t take your senior year for granted because, before you know it, it’ll be over. I remember a lot of people in my graduating class sharing these same articles a year ago, tagging their friends, begging the days to slow down, voicing their anxiety about high school ending, and while I experienced some of these feelings too, the idea that people who had graduated high school long ago considered it the best experience of their life really scared me. It made me wonder, did I do high school wrong? I couldn’t fully identify with people’s stories -- I wasn’t part of a large friend group, I didn’t attend wild high school parties, I barely went to any football games and I didn’t even go on my senior trip. People kept telling me, “You’ll regret it, don’t wish the years away,” but I couldn’t help it. I held onto the notion that there must be something better beyond high school. My parents had always told me the best four years of their lives were in college, not high school, but it seemed like barely anyone shared this opinion.

So, this article is for you -- the student who is ready for high school to be over. It’s okay to be sad, it’s okay to be scared, but it’s also okay to be ready to leave and feel more excited than upset. This is me telling you that after just one year of college, I can already honestly say high school will not be the best four years of my life. I’ve had more fun, and most importantly, have grown more as a person in this past year than I ever could in high school. Even though I had to leave some of my closest friends, being away from them has done nothing but bring us closer, and the fact of the matter is, people who are meant to stay in your life past high school will stay there.

Like most people who have graduated, I don’t miss gym class, waking up at 7:30 a.m., riding the bus or eating school lunches. But, unlike some people who graduated, I also don’t miss school dances or football games. I don’t even miss chorus concerts, which were my favorite part of high school, and that’s okay. It was time for me to leave and four years of these memories was more than enough.

If you’re like me and you feel like an outsider, like you missed out on something that everyone else seems to have experienced, this is me telling you not to freak out. And if you are the other person who truly did have a great high school experience, I’m happy for you, but it’s important to realize life goes on, high school ends, and you need to be able to put it behind you.

Enjoy your last few weeks. They really do go by quickly, but let yourself be excited for the future. The day I moved into college and said goodbye to my friends and family, I thought I would throw up I was so nervous, but I can’t even put into words how quickly that feeling left me.

It may sound cynical, but high school is petty and so, so small. Once you get out, you realize just how little your world was. There are so many more people to meet from all over the state, country, even the world, and if you don’t accept the fact that your high school days are over, you might miss out on opportunities. Being in high school felt like being in a bubble to me. I had no room to find myself when I desperately needed to, and the freedom I felt on graduation day is something I will never forget.

This article isn’t meant to bash the popular crowd or the people who loved high school. It’s the words I wish I had read when I was a high school senior, letting you know, if your high school experience was less than fulfilling, you aren’t alone. Life goes on, and I promise you, the best years of your life are not behind you, they haven’t even happened yet.
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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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This is it early 2000's babies, a compilation finally made for you. This list is loaded with things that will make you swoon with nostalgia.

1. Not being accepted by the late 90's kids.


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2. Fortune tellers.


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You could never read this book past 8 o'clock at night out of fear that your beloved pet rabbit would come after you.

4. Silly bands.


You vividly remember begging your parents to buy you $10 worth of cheap rubber bands that vaguely resembles the shape of an everyday object.

5. Parachutes.


The joy and excitement that washed over you whenever you saw the gym teacher pull out the huge rainbow parachute. The adrenaline that pumped through your veins whenever your gym teacher tells you the pull the chute under you and sit to make a huge "fort".

6. Putty Erasers


You always bought one whenever there was a school store.

7. iPod shuffle.


The smallest, least technological iPpd apple has made, made you the coolest kid at the bus stop.

8. "Education Connection"

You knew EVERY wood to the "Education Connection" commercials. Every. Single.Word.

9. " The Naked Brothers Band"


The "Naked Brothers Band" had a short run on Nickelodeon and wrote some absolute bangers including, "Crazy Car' and "I Don't Wanna Go To School"

10. Dance Dance Revolution


This one video game caused so many sibling, friend, and parent rivalries. This is also where you learned all of your super sick dance moves.

11. Tamagotchi


Going to school with fear of your Tamagotchi dying while you were away was your biggest worry.

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You, or somebody you know most likely broke or jammed their finger on one of these bad boys, but it was worth it.

13. Scholastic book fairs


Begging your parents for money to buy a new book, and then actually spending it on pens, pencils, erasers, and posters.



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15. Slap Bracelets


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