First and foremost, girls are irrational because guys are not very understanding of them. Girls are too sensitive and guys are too inconsiderate. Guys, if you want to be single as quickly as possible, tell a girl she is irrational everyday. Girls and guys are both irrational at times; the difference is, that guys are typically less willing to share the way they feel. I think that guys tend to just think that the girl is crazy and try to undermine the way they feel by calling them irrational. Sure, some of the things that girls and guys get upset about can be completely dumb and pointless, but if you take the time to understand where they are coming from you might be more understanding next time.
Control
The peculiar thing about feelings and emotions is that, at times, they cannot be controlled. If given the option to be able to control their feelings, I think just about everyone would choose to never get upset about anything. Guys, you should understand when a girl you’re dating gets upset. No matter who they are or how cool they seem to be, eventually your significant other will get upset over something seemingly pointless. It isn’t their fault that they are human and got upset about something random. However, there is something that the girls can control, and that is how they react to their feelings. Instead of immediately attacking a guy for what he has done to make you upset, try and talk about it with him in a calm manner at a time that is convenient and private. Chances are, the guy probably did not even know he was doing something that would upset you and that is why he gets so defensive when you immediately talk to him about it. Again, you can’t control your feelings, but you can control how you react to those feelings.
Repetition:
Unless what a guy does really upsets you, let it slide at least once before you talk about it with him. If he does something one time that makes you mad, it might not be a problem, it was probably just a mistake. Mistakes are okay, but problems are not. It is important to only address the issues that actually reoccur so that it doesn’t seem like you are constantly trying to “fix” him.
The Rule of Five:
Most girls and guys will have around five people that they would like you to avoid if you are in a relationship with them. When girls get mad in a relationship, it usually stems from you talking or being in the presence of someone who they do not like. For this reason, you should allow the girl you are dating to choose 5 people that they would like you to stay away from. If their list is longer than 5 people, they probably are actually irrational and you should stay away from a relationship with them in the first place. If their list is shorter than five that is a good sign that they trust you and that they are confident in themselves as well. It is not irrational for someone to get jealous as long as they have specific reasons for why they want you to avoid someone. Here are a couple acceptable reasons, for example, “they try to date everyone that I date” or “you used to date them”. Allowing a girl to have five other girls that you will try to avoid helps increase the amount of trust the girl has and also gives them a reason to be upset when you break that trust. Obviously there are some people that you wouldn’t be willing to give up for your significant other, especially if it’s a new relationship. If that’s the case, maybe you should just not be together in the first place or reevaluate which people in your life are priorities.
If a girl is irrational, it is not because they want to be that way. It is generally because another guy has caused them to be that way. Avoid being a guy that causes a girl to have trust issues and be understanding of a girl who does have trust issues. Patience and communication are two of the biggest keys to a successful healthy relationship.
