Girls, I know we are all (for the most part) attracted to the bad boy type, and I think it needs to be addressed. I too have been attracted to my fair share of boys I had no business being with. I don't know what it is about them, but good girls always seem to go for the bad boys. I know that there is something about them — the way they act like they don't care (even though they do), their need to be morally reformed (in our eyes), the challenge of “fixing” them, their usually good looks and athletic ability.
Good girls seem to be drawn to bad boys in ways that we shouldn't be. Have we ever paused to ask ourselves the underlying cause of our attraction? Because while we may actually really like their personality, is it that we see potential in their personality? That we are missionary-dating them to fix them into our version of a better man? The question I pose to you is: is that fair? Is it fair to ourselves to put our own selves under the pain that is sure to ensue from dating a guy we know isn't ready for us? Is it also fair to the man whom we have decided is only the “ideal man” once we have fixed him?
I know it may not be intentional that we date to better our significant other, but I think that we seriously need to consider whether that is an underlying reason we have. The question then becomes, "Why can't we be happy with an actual good guy?" See, I think to some extent, girls like the drama of emotional instability — it gives us something to do and be crazy passionate over. Moreover, we think that wildly emotional nights are ideal for a relationship because we see it in the media we are steeped in.
What is wrong, though, with good guys? I feel the reason we are not attracted to a good guy — even though a good guy is our real desire — is because the media has given us the idea that the good guy is boring. No, you won't have frequent nights crying your eyes out feeling like your heart is breaking — because he will take care of what you give him. He will try to make your days better.
So no, it may not be exciting in all the ways we picture it — in the movies — but it will be exciting in other ways. We can have those truly good times without waiting for the other shoe to drop and an explosion to happen. We are each worth so much and deserve someone who will be good for us. I am not saying that we should always discount the bad boys — but just be careful with yourself and make sure you choose a person because you like them — not because you want to fix them up.
